I've come to realize...

Noellesmama · August 2010

During this planning for the wedding I've come to realize what's really important to me. Has anyone been here or is anyone experiencing this feeling right now?

We're still a little more than 9 mos out, and during the past 4 mos of planning I've realized that having a big wedding is not important to me. It's not because of the sticker shock either. All of the elements to the wedding that my mom and I have been fussing about no longer seem so important. At the end of the day the end result will be the same...Joe and I will be married :-)

We were talking about this last night and I finally see his point of view. Linens, decor, and centerpieces do not matter to him...he just wants to be married to me.

I guess I'm just rambling here, but needed to let this out.

Don't get me wrong...I am still looking forward to the wedding day. Its something I've dreamt about since I was a little girl. It's just funny that now that I'm here and planning for this, I see whats important.

Does anybody know what I am saying/feeling? I hope I'm not the only one?

ebonyivory10 · August 2010

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[QUOTE]During this planning for the wedding I've come to realize what's really important to me. Has anyone been here or is anyone experiencing this feeling right now? We're still a little more than 9 mos out, and during the past 4 mos of planning I've realized that having a big wedding is not important to me. It's not because of the sticker shock either. All of the elements to the wedding that my mom and I have been fussing about no longer seem so important. At the end of the day the end result will be the same...Joe and I will be married :-) We were talking about this last night and I finally see his point of view. Linens, decor, and centerpieces do not matter to him...he just wants to be married to me. I guess I'm just rambling here, but needed to let this out. Don't get me wrong...I am still looking forward to the wedding day. Its something I've dreamt about since I was a little girl. It's just funny that now that I'm here and planning for this, I see whats important. Does anybody know what I am saying/feeling? I hope I'm not the only one?
Posted by Noellesmama[/QUOTE]

Some people lose that feeling during the planning chaos, so it's good you are realizing. You are not alone <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

megk8oz · August 2010

I honestly never had the patience for "wedding crap", but I still wanted a nice wedding ... so I picked a venue that did 90% of the work for me. I really just kept saying "I don't care, just as long as it's nice and I'm married at the end of the day". We wound up only having to take care of attire, invitations, favors, the WP flowers (Our venue gave us center pieces) and finding an officiant. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't have done it any other way. I loved not having to fuss over every little(And incredibly trivial) detail, knowing it was somebody else's "problem", lol.

Yeah, I was a lazy bride.

[Deleted User] · August 2010

I know what you are feeling. I was so stressed out about halfway through the planning and then H kept telling me the little things didn't matter. It was hard to listen to him at first, but everything turned out just fine.

Muffin'sMom · August 2010

You aren't strange...you just realized what's important! Good for you. It will still be just as magical and beautiful without the giant stress!

tldh · August 2010

A woman I work with asked me the other day if I was getting nervous with the wedding coming up. I told her that as long as FI and I are married at the end of the day, I couldn't care less about what will go wrong that day. She laughed and said I had the right attitude.

Noellesmama · August 2010

I'm so glad to know I am not alone!

It just hit me yesterday....and I was like What the heck! LOL...I'm taking things in stride and will NOT let the stress get to me. All I care about at this point is marrying FH :-)

aerinpegadrak · August 2010

About halfway through our engagement, we threw out our plans and scaled way, way back. Best decision we made.

Jetur20 · August 2010

I feel that way and we just started planning. I'm atypical: I never dreamed (or even thought) of my wedding before all of this. I seriously had to look stuff up about diamonds when he brought up engagement rings (not to mention I forgot about wedding bands). The only things I'm worried about are finding a nice dress and getting a good location. Then the wedding planner will do everything.

It's a bit easier for me in this situation since my fiance has strong feelings about what he wants (he cares more than I do, actually) and we're having the wedding in his dad's hometown in Bologna, Italy, which I have never been to. So he gets to email the wedding planners in Italian while I just check out websites of venues. Flowers, favors, cake, decor, DJ, photographer, etc.... I say we pick who/whatever seems decent and isn't some ungodly amount.

The only problem is I kinda want something to fill the time between now and our wedding in October 2011. Just can't get that excited about wedding planning.

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