My fiance is from Scotland. All his family is there. He is very close to his neice (age 6) and especially his nephew (age 4).
I am from Texas.
My fiance is immigrating to the U.S. as we have determined for our situation that it is easier for him to move here, than for me to move there.
He has just announced this to his family. His older sister (mother to the kids mentioned above) has now apparently been making out of line comments to the kids. This became painfully obvious when my fiance was catching a ride to town with his mother when she was droping said kiddies off at their mother's house. Apparently on getting out of the car and saying "see ya later" to the kids, and shutting the door and walking away to where he needed to go, his nephew said to his mother (quoting to the best of my 3rd hand information possibility) that they were "... not waiting on Uncle Baz because he is moving away and we are never going to see him again." Grandma turned around and tried to nip this in the bud as much as possible thinking on the fly (as I can imagine such a comment was a shock to hear) saying "He's not moving away just yet!" This unfortunately did not quell his fear of the "never seeing him again" though.
She told my finace of this and he quickly discerned this was coming from his sister (she's older). Since he didn't hear his nephew say this, he made the request of his mother to have a talk with his sister about her lack of appropriate commentary.
I was concerned this could happen with the kids, and the nephew especially. We had been discussing with ourselves how we were going to handle trying to reassure him that this exact worry was not going to happen, but neither of us were ready for this to be broached just yet. The kids (and granted his whole family) haven't yet even met me. There is plans to remedy this, but because of my current personal financial situation, I haven't made the trip over there yet. So I am still this "nebulous" being out there (to the point that after a recent trip his parents asked him if he had a picture of me, and asked to see it when he confirmed.)
We were going to tell the kids that he could be talked to any time - even everyday with the power of the internet, and we intend to go visit (I wish I could relocate to Scotland, as that has been my desire to return there since 1999 when I went to the UK and Scotland for study abroad in college) as much as possible.
Now we have a bit of a mess on our hands. Considering these kids ages, any suggestions on how to convey that I am not "stealing" my fiance from them and everyone is going to be able to be in contact with everyone else that is age appropriate and will be able to counteract what his sister is doing to her own kids?
We just were not quite ready to approach this just yet because we were trying to find the best way to say / do it without scareing or scaring the poor things. They are very VERY attached to their uncle and see him daily right now, but he was here for 2 weeks for a visit and that was almost more than the nephew could stand, and he's planning a trip here for almost 3 months so we can get some real wedding plans falling into place. I am terribly angry at the sister, and this is not the first time she's been inappropriate with the way she handles things with the kids. I don't personally have any ground to stand on, but I feel I need to play an active role in this, but both I and my fiance are currently very stumped were to go from here.