My husband and I got married in July of '11 however we eloped. We were planning a wedding for Oct of '11 and had the dress and all the fixings plus the bridesmaids dresses, make up lady booked, etc. I was having some MAJOR issues with my mom and one of my bridesmaids and since my mom was paying for the wedding it was becoming more and more not my wedding and more hers. I tired several, several times to talk to her about it and it ended multiple times with me crying and then FI mad! We had one HUGE blow out and I asked my FI to talk to our pastor (doing pre marriage counseling) about what was going on. We were already finished with the book and he was confident we were ready to take the next step. His main thing was we can either wait another 3 months and deal with the same issues cause they were not going away or we can get married. My now husband and I decided to get married. Now before we did this I called my mom one more time and tried to talk to her and even said I think it would be better if we went ahead and got married. She said she didn't care.
Next day I called to tell her we got married, I got called every name in the book and we did not speak for months! My family didn't really know what to say other than congrats that is if I beat my mom to telling them I got married. I would see her at family gathers and would try to talk to her but she would not even hug me or even speak to me. It finally came down to me writing a letter to her expressing my feelings. In Oct of '11 our church family threw a Wedding Reception for us which I thought was extremely wonderful!
Around Nov we started talking again and have been rebulding our relationship ever since.
I made mention of doing a vow renewal on our 1 year anniversay since there was SO MUCH going on!!
Granted I know it's not a wedding and just a vow renwal.
I just don't know if it would be tacky or how to even go about doing anything since technically we have already had our reception, etc!
Help?