Earn cash as you plan. Get a $20 gift card for every 200 points with The Knot Rewards
September 2012 Weddings
seating chart drama
on a more frustrating note than my last sad post...
anyone else going nuts with the seating chart? let me rephrase - anyone else's FMIL driving them nuts about the seating chart?
i sent her the list of which family members were attending, and instead of just sending me back a list of who she wants seated together, she is individually emailing me who can't sit together, asking me where her other son and his gf will be seated. idk, i thought that's why she wanted to do the chart, because she knew?
there are 17 tables, with a 10 person minimum per table and some tables can hold 12. i told her this, but she keeps telling me she only wants 6-7 people per table because certain family members can't sit with other family members. WELL THERE CAN'T BE 6-7 PEOPLE PER TABLE, SORRY.
i'm just getting incredibly frustrated...can't everyone just suck it up for ONE DAY and be cordial with one another?! it's not even a whole day..it's 4 hours!
just trying to remind myself to BREATHE, it'll all work out but geez, this is driving me NUTS!
anyone else going nuts with the seating chart? let me rephrase - anyone else's FMIL driving them nuts about the seating chart?
i sent her the list of which family members were attending, and instead of just sending me back a list of who she wants seated together, she is individually emailing me who can't sit together, asking me where her other son and his gf will be seated. idk, i thought that's why she wanted to do the chart, because she knew?
there are 17 tables, with a 10 person minimum per table and some tables can hold 12. i told her this, but she keeps telling me she only wants 6-7 people per table because certain family members can't sit with other family members. WELL THERE CAN'T BE 6-7 PEOPLE PER TABLE, SORRY.
i'm just getting incredibly frustrated...can't everyone just suck it up for ONE DAY and be cordial with one another?! it's not even a whole day..it's 4 hours!
just trying to remind myself to BREATHE, it'll all work out but geez, this is driving me NUTS!
-kristine!
233 made the cut!
186 are ready to party!
47 are party poopers!
233 made the cut!
186 are ready to party!
47 are party poopers!
This discussion has been closed.
Re: seating chart drama
All I asked FMIL for was which side of the family people are on (FMIL or FFIL) and who they wanted at their table. She only gave me the first part. I plan on making the seating chart on my own and then reveiwing it with her, emphasizing only major vetos allowed. In general, FI and I don't care if people don't get along. Sounds harsh but you are at your table for a half hour while you eat and then we are playing dancing music before dinner is over so you can get up and dance, socialize, whatever. Also, do you have 5 or 6 people on your side you can sit with these groups of 6 or 7. IMO it doesn't matter which side people are from when it comes to seating as long as everyone knows someone at their table. Everyone is family at that point, no?
And leave it like that - if she starts telling you, "Aunt Jane can't sit with Cousin Susie", just say, "Great, well then, make sure to put them on different table lists!" Put it on HER to sort out her family drama!
i've gotten no less than 9 emails in the last 10 minutes from her asking if so-and-so is coming, even AFTER i have told her twice that i've given her everyone who is attending. if they aren't on the list, they aren't coming. SIMPLE AS THAT.
i mean, that IS simple right? ::head desk::
I totally feel your pain! The only person that has caused any stress throughout this proccess is my FMIL.
Take a deep breath! PPs have give you two options of how to handle her. It will all work out.
RSVP Date: September 1
i'm regretting her doing this now. i should have just done it myself.
thanks for listening ladies!!
::sigh:: only 2.5 weeks, i can do it!