FI didn't get that police job. Found out yesterday afternoon. He was crushed. I even left work early to be with him (and because I was so upset myself I couldn't focus). We are really just so in shock over it. Of course nothing is guaranteed. But, since he made it so far in the process we thought he had a real chance and got our hopes up. He's applied for a lot of things with no luck but we are going to start exhausting our and my parents and our family friends networks to see if we can just find him a paycheck somehow. He found out there is 1 other police department hiring applicants who haven't gone through the academy so he already has his application filled out and just has to wait until Monday when the office is open.
We are also going to look this weekend at our guest list. See if we can cut back. On FI's side it is mainly his extended family that he doesn't know. We expect this to be drama with his mom but we are desperate. My side is smaller and unfortunately since they all have to travel, we sent save the dates to 90% of them so I'm not sure what we can do or if we really can do anything without breaking all the etiquette rules. But, we don't want to add debt to the debt we already have (and will keep racking up until FI finds something). We have 6 weeks until invites go out so hopefully we will have something to turn this around.
I appreciate all your support while we've been going through all this. To make it harder I feel like most my friends don't get it. They mainly are just responsible for themselves (I'm the first to get married and many aren't even in a serious relationship) and don't have many financial obligations or come from families that can give them more support than most. And, they don't get living with a man who is down and out and the stress that comes with that. So leaning on you girls who come from a variety of situations has really helped me feel like someone gets these hardships. So thank you from the bottom of my heart!