Wedding Party Gifts

Re: Wedding Party Gifts

• tidetravel member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-party-gifts-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d7e0db77-179a-4da3-8423-76dba68034acPost:9c6c1c95-8f50-4c37-9da4-05532c9e5c6e">Wedding Party Gifts</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hi - I have bought my bridesmaids jewerly to wear with their gowns for our wedding.  I was going to give it to them at the rehearsal dinner.  Should I let them know I am giving them jewerly in advance?  This way they don't go out and buy something.  I am getting married in 5 weeks and would appreciate some feedback. Thanks
  Posted by thelvgirl[/QUOTE]
  
  If you're buying them jewelry to wear with their gowns for your wedding, it's not a gift - it's a uniform requirement.
  
  Since you've already bought it, though, I would try to supplement the gift with something small, personal, and unique to each of the girls.

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• TurtlesAllTheWayDown member

  

  September 2010

  Give it to them now, then give them their real gift at the RD.

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• banana468 member

  

  September 2010

  You can give them their gifts at the RD but if you're telling them that they have to wear it at the RD then that isn't their gift.
  
  So you can either get them an additional gift or give them the jewelry with  no strings.
  

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• LP11509 member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-party-gifts-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d7e0db77-179a-4da3-8423-76dba68034acPost:3671559f-84ac-4789-b664-5202967169e4">Re: Wedding Party Gifts</a>:
  [QUOTE]You can give them their gifts at the RD but if you're telling them that they have to wear it at the RD then that isn't their gift. So you can either get them an additional gift or give them the jewelry with  no strings.
  Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]
  
  This.  I gave my girls jewelry, but it wasn't for the wedding.  I got them each different styles based on what I thought they would like.  One of them decided that she WANTED to wear hers at the wedding, which is a different story.  But in general, required to wear does not equal gift. It'd be the same as if you paid for their dresses and called that their gift.

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  September 2010

  I know this is against the common census around here, but I have been in three weddings and each time my gift for being in the bridal party was jewelry and I was expected to wear it for the wedding. Before reading TK I never knew anything different as it seems to be pretty standard where I live. I was planning on getting my girls jewelry for theit gifts, that I would like them to wear for the wedding, but I was thinking of getting each a necklace, all of silver/ white gold but possibly different pendants. Thoughts?

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• vickiCW

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-party-gifts-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d7e0db77-179a-4da3-8423-76dba68034acPost:80b1037a-9940-403a-983f-32ca1a1bf369">Re: Wedding Party Gifts</a>:
  [QUOTE]I know this is against the common census around here, but I have been in three weddings and each time my gift for being in the bridal party was jewelry and I was expected to wear it for the wedding. Before reading TK I never knew anything different as it seems to be pretty standard where I live. I was planning on getting my girls jewelry for theit gifts, that I would like them to wear for the wedding, but I was thinking of getting each a necklace, all of silver/ white gold but possibly different pendants. Thoughts?
  Posted by schlagetermari[/QUOTE]
  
  I completely agree, I'm getting my girls jewelry for the wedding, each a necklace, and while it is a gift, I would like them to wear it to the wedding, unless they have a good reason not to. I have never heard of giving jewelry to wear at the wedding not being a sufficiant gift and something suplimental being needed... I think that is a little ridiculous.

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