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August 2012 Weddings
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Declined RSVP just made me cry..
My dad lives in Michigan and he wont be coming to my wedding ( i wasnt expecting him thought) but when he told me that he wasnt gonna make it i was fine...
So my boss who I have worked for almost 2 years just told me that she wont be able to attend ( I would kill a brick over my boss - right - wrong i stick up for her) The wedding is 15 mins away from where we all work and Obviously she's know about this since day 1 - So why cant she attend? AND WHY THE HECK AM I AT MY DESK WIPING TEARS FROM MY FACE.....
HURRY 8/18/2012 - I'M SICK OF PEOPLE
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Re: Declined RSVP just made me cry..
I think you should mention it to your boss that you really wanted her there. Keep it low-key - "I'm super bummed that you won't be there!" and hopefully she'll reply with her reason. It also could be that she felt you invited her out of obligation, not because you really wanted her there.
August 2012 - Married!
[QUOTE]Friends of ours who have known about the wedding since I sent out the STD in January just told me they aren't coming because they don't DO weddings. I burst into tears. WTF, and why couldn't you tell me about this sooner?!?
Posted by Kris012[/QUOTE]
WTF that doesn't make any sense? I have heard of people that don't "do" funerals, but I can't imagine someone's reasoning behind not attending weddings.
[QUOTE] BUT I DO KNOW THAT THERE BETTER BE SOME KIND OF GIFT/CARD! ( AND I'M NOT JOKIING)
Posted by aishaameena[/QUOTE]
Maybe this is why she declined. Would you feel better if she came to your wedding but didn't bring a gift. Whether a person comes or not gifts are NOT required.
August 2012 - Married!
[QUOTE]I guess my feelings are hurt - no one in the office cares for her - and i'm always defending her... so its kinda like a slap in the face -- <strong>BUT I DO KNOW THAT THERE BETTER BE SOME KIND OF GIFT/CARD! ( AND I'M NOT JOKIING)</strong>
Posted by aishaameena[/QUOTE]
I was feeling sorry for you before I read this. Nobody owes you their attendance or a gift. Stop crying and get over yourself.
August 2012 - Married!
[QUOTE]It's not horrible to want gifts. It's horrible to expect or demand them.
Posted by dawnp917[/QUOTE]
This, exactly. Of course it's nice to get gifts, but it's completely rude and crass to say someone better get you something. That would be enough of a reason for me not to go to someone's wedding.
[QUOTE]Im not demanding a thing but it would be nice to get gifts. But I think if it's not for you it's not for you. I Dnt think she rude for wanting what she wants ... You ladies act like she told her boss she better have gift. Geesh
Posted by kthowell[/QUOTE]
I was responding to the fact that she said she absolutely expects a card or gift in her previous post. This also isn't the first time she has made comments about expecting gifts or sending reminders to guests that even if they don't attend they can still send a gift.
August 2012 - Married!
Great guest etiquette starts as soon as you receive an invitation. Here are our top tips:
1. RSVP. Immediately.
RSVP is French for “please respond” (répondez s’il vous plaît). Your most important obligation as a guest is to respond to the invitation immediately, especially if you are unable to attend. At the very least, it allows your host and hostess enough time to give an accurate count to the caterer. There is usually a card to return with your reply. If not, you may write a formal reply or a note indicating your intention.
2. Respect your invitation.
Do not ask your host or hostess if you can bring a date or your children. The invitation will be addressed to the people invited. If you may bring a guest, your invitation will read “Mr. John Phelps and guest.” If your children are invited, they will either receive their own personal invitations or their names will be listed under yours on the envelope. This is not the time to question your host’s decision, to argue or to beg for an exception. And, please, do not add their names to a reply card or show up with them anyway!
3. Send a gift.
If you are invited to the ceremony and/or reception, you should send a gift, whether you are attending or not. Generally, gifts are sent to the bride in advance of the wedding. In some localities, gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. If you hear from family that the couple would prefer a charitable donation—as in the case of an older couple or an encore wedding—please respect their wishes. If you receive an announcement after the wedding has taken place, you may send a gift if you wish, but you have no obligation to do so. It is nice to acknowledge the announcement with a card or a note expressing your best wishes.
4. Be on your BEST behavior.
Be on time, wear appropriate clothing and be respectful during the marriage ceremony. Pay your respects to the hosts, the wedding party and other guests at the reception.
And remember—
“The good guest is almost invisible, enjoying him- or herself, communing with fellow guests, and, most of all, enjoying the generous hospitality of the hosts.”
— E. Post