So, we're getting married in 3 weeks. When we first started planning 18 months ago, we agreed we would have older children at our wedding, but not invite babies (2 years of age and younger). We certantly weren't opposed to having children there, we just did't want parents not watching their kids, toddlers running around, screaming...ect. So I texted my maid of honor today asking if she was planning on bringing a guest because we were working on the table seating (she is not dating anyone at the moment, and I didn't know if she found a date yet, and she also has an 18 month old child) and she responds with "no guest, but I'm bringing my joey." Now I didn't include Joeys name on her invitation because I thought that would make it clear that he wasn't invited. I really didn't know how to respond to this without sounding b*tchy because we reallllllllly didn't want him there. (She tends to let him do whatever he wants, and doesn't always keep an eye on him) So I politely told her that we reallly didn't want small children there. She responds back with "Well then can I just bring him with us for the day and I'll have my ex pick him up before the ceremony?" Its like how do I respond to this? I told her that they're was too much going on that day and that it wouldn't be appropiate to him there (we didn't want him in any pics, didn't want him running around all over the place while we're taking pics, ect...) Im the type of person that I try to be nice and usually wont say no to anything anyone asks me, so it was really hard for me to say that to her. Was I really being b*tchy? I knew for a fact that if I would have giving in to her bringing him, I would have been miserable. She brought him to my bridal shower without him being invited and he just ran around opening all my presents, and she was allowing him to do this! Ugh!
Sorry this is long. Basically just a vent...