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"I don't know guys, that's a really nice thing to have in your house. I have one similar saying written on the walls all over my quiet, neat, non-childproofed home. I have it in my brand new car as a decal on the window. I even wear it on a t-shirt for when I go out to dinner or hang out at a trendy bar or go on a relaxing vacation. "All because I use birth control." It still brings a tear to my eye..." SnarkyMcSnarkerson
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I do sympathize with his aunt and grandmother.  Living in a trailer is pretty trashy.
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  • sweetvidaliasweetvidalia
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_unsolicited-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:cf08c5c3-28d1-47d5-8651-9995759aee38Post:93ad1fe6-e85a-4e96-822f-f6591fb950b5">Re: unsolicited advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]I do sympathize with his aunt and grandmother.  Living in a trailer is pretty trashy.
    Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]

    I really hope that is a joke?


    "I don't know guys, that's a really nice thing to have in your house. I have one similar saying written on the walls all over my quiet, neat, non-childproofed home. I have it in my brand new car as a decal on the window. I even wear it on a t-shirt for when I go out to dinner or hang out at a trendy bar or go on a relaxing vacation. "All because I use birth control." It still brings a tear to my eye..." SnarkyMcSnarkerson
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    No.  No joke.  I'd be upset if my family members decided to live in a trailer, too.  I mean, ffs, what happened to, you know, getting an apartment while you save for a house?
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  • sweetvidaliasweetvidalia
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_unsolicited-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:cf08c5c3-28d1-47d5-8651-9995759aee38Post:3ee2febf-6fb1-48de-8aca-c33b892d77cc">Re: unsolicited advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]No.  No joke.  I'd be upset if my family members decided to live in a trailer, too.  I mean, ffs, what happened to, you know, getting an apartment while you save for a house?
    Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]

    There are no apartments in the region where I live. And I've never been too fond of throwing away money on something I'll never own.


    "I don't know guys, that's a really nice thing to have in your house. I have one similar saying written on the walls all over my quiet, neat, non-childproofed home. I have it in my brand new car as a decal on the window. I even wear it on a t-shirt for when I go out to dinner or hang out at a trendy bar or go on a relaxing vacation. "All because I use birth control." It still brings a tear to my eye..." SnarkyMcSnarkerson
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    edited December 2011
    well, for a tiny tidbit of unsolicited advice, look hard at the finances.
    I have never ever EVER seen it be financially prudent to buy a trailer.

    THey depreciate in value, the lot fees can go all over the place (and it's cost prohibitive to move/move them), and you have all of the 'downsides' of home ownership (mowing lawn, shoveling snow, etc--which can also be upsides :) with many of the downsides of apt. living (crappy neighbors and neighborhoods that you basically live on top of)

    That being said, once your mind is made up, don't be afraid of confrontation.
    "WHy would you say that?"  or "how interesting" <--said dryly.  (repeat whichever phrase youw ant word for word EVERY time they open their mouth on the issue), just let them know they're talking to a brick wall
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_unsolicited-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:cf08c5c3-28d1-47d5-8651-9995759aee38Post:47597515-04b2-4005-a0be-bc1938bab51a">Re: unsolicited advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: unsolicited advice : There are no apartments in the region where I live. And I've never been too fond of throwing away money on something I'll never own.
    Posted by sweetvidalia[/QUOTE]

    be careful w/ this line of thinking.

    Rent is NOT throwing away money, it is providing money for a place to live--often a better deal for people starting out for a WHOLE lot of reasons.

    (and if it WERE throwing away money, well, lot rent is too--except you can move out of an apt/break a lease a lot easier than you can move a trailer)

    There may not be many apts where you live--there aren't where I live.  But that doesn't mean there is not property for rent.  It's just not traditional apt. bldg property.
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  • AthseaAthsea member
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    edited December 2011
    I lived in a trailer in college because I had a dog and apartments in my town wouldn't let you keep a dog, and it was cheaper than renting a house. It was clean, new, we took good care of it, and I got lots of compliments that it was pretty. I also grew up living in the only house in a trailer park, so I didn't judge my friends who all lived in trailers (my home town is tiny, no apartment complexes, and these were mostly ranchers). There's living in a trailer, and there's "trailer trash". Vast difference.

    I think investing in something you can rent out later is a marvelous idea, OP. There's nothing wrong with what you're planning on doing.
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  • sweetvidaliasweetvidalia
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_unsolicited-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:cf08c5c3-28d1-47d5-8651-9995759aee38Post:295cb257-233d-422f-b656-169638b17fd5">Re: unsolicited advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]well, for a tiny tidbit of unsolicited advice, look hard at the finances. I have never ever EVER seen it be financially prudent to buy a trailer. THey depreciate in value, the lot fees can go all over the place (and it's cost prohibitive to move/move them), and you have all of the 'downsides' of home ownership (mowing lawn, shoveling snow, etc--which can also be upsides :) with many of the downsides of apt. living (crappy neighbors and neighborhoods that you basically live on top of) That being said, once your mind is made up, don't be afraid of confrontation. "WHy would you say that?"  or "how interesting" <--said dryly.  (repeat whichever phrase youw ant word for word EVERY time they open their mouth on the issue), just let them know they're talking to a brick wall
    Posted by GBCK[/QUOTE]

    That is full of good advice, so thanks.

    Without revealing too much personal information about our location or profession, said mobile home would not ever have to be moved, and our buying a new home would not depend on how much money we made from selling. We have no intentions of selling it or moving it when we are done. The plan is to just build or buy elsewhere and leave the mobile home for a future intended purpose.


    "I don't know guys, that's a really nice thing to have in your house. I have one similar saying written on the walls all over my quiet, neat, non-childproofed home. I have it in my brand new car as a decal on the window. I even wear it on a t-shirt for when I go out to dinner or hang out at a trendy bar or go on a relaxing vacation. "All because I use birth control." It still brings a tear to my eye..." SnarkyMcSnarkerson
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  • dharmabunnydharmabunny member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_unsolicited-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:cf08c5c3-28d1-47d5-8651-9995759aee38Post:75e61c38-b35d-4733-b1f7-8213ef26b9ed">Re: unsolicited advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: unsolicited advice : be careful w/ this line of thinking. Rent is NOT throwing away money, it is providing money for a place to live--often a better deal for people starting out for a WHOLE lot of reasons. (and if it WERE throwing away money, well, lot rent is too--except you can move out of an apt/break a lease a lot easier than you can move a trailer) There may not be many apts where you live--there aren't where I live.  But that doesn't mean there is not property for rent.  It's just not traditional apt. bldg property.
    Posted by GBCK[/QUOTE]

    Muchly agree with this
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  • notamrsnotamrs member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_unsolicited-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:cf08c5c3-28d1-47d5-8651-9995759aee38Post:323f8384-ddca-46e0-9093-07458c4d120c">Re: unsolicited advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]There's living in a trailer, and there's "trailer trash". Vast difference. Posted by Athsea[/QUOTE]

    This.  My sister lived in a mobile home during grad school.  It wasn't trashy, had a nice fenced in yard and was in community that didn't look like like a sterotypical trailer park.   GBCK brings up some good points about depreciation, lot rental, etc., but if you've thoroughly researched everything and it still makes the most sense for you, then it's nobody else's business where you decide to live.
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  • sweetvidaliasweetvidalia
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_unsolicited-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:cf08c5c3-28d1-47d5-8651-9995759aee38Post:323f8384-ddca-46e0-9093-07458c4d120c">Re: unsolicited advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]I lived in a trailer in college because I had a dog and apartments in my town wouldn't let you keep a dog, and it was cheaper than renting a house. It was clean, new, we took good care of it, and I got lots of compliments that it was pretty. I also grew up living in the only house in a trailer park, so I didn't judge my friends who all lived in trailers (my home town is tiny, no apartment complexes, and these were mostly ranchers). There's living in a trailer, and there's "trailer trash". Vast difference. I think investing in something you can rent out later is a marvelous idea, OP. There's nothing wrong with what you're planning on doing.
    Posted by Athsea[/QUOTE]

    I'm glad to see that worked out so well for you. We are also finding that the payments we'd be making would be drastically less than monthly rent would be for any homes up for rent in our town. Our town is tiny as well, so inexpensive housing is hard to come by and real estate is just a huge disaster because we'd never be able to resell any real estate. And as I said before, we'd have no need or intentions to resell the mobile home.


    "I don't know guys, that's a really nice thing to have in your house. I have one similar saying written on the walls all over my quiet, neat, non-childproofed home. I have it in my brand new car as a decal on the window. I even wear it on a t-shirt for when I go out to dinner or hang out at a trendy bar or go on a relaxing vacation. "All because I use birth control." It still brings a tear to my eye..." SnarkyMcSnarkerson
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011
    Tell those people to bugger off.  Then listen to what GBCK said.  She made very valid points about trailers and about rent not being "money thrown away."
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  • MrsMyrtleMrsMyrtle member
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    edited December 2011
    Andplusalso, it's highly unlikely you'll recoup any money when you sell that trailer. They have one of the fastest depreciation rates.  So you'll still be "throwing money away."
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  • notamrsnotamrs member
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    edited December 2011
    She said above that they don't plan to sell.  Everyone has made some valid points, but it seems like they have given everything a lot of thought and their plan makes sense.  The point of the OP is that the family's objection to the mobile home was their perception of being "too good" to live in a trailer - which is silly and none of their business anyway.
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