anyone else argue about bedtime??

Soon2baW · February 2012

My FI drives me insane. I like going to sleep a bit earlier. We both wake up at 5am for work and I like to get at least 8 hours of sleep. But I don't like going to sleep alone. I don't even ask him to physically fall asleep at the same time as me. I am fine with him watching TV in bed for hours. If he wasn't going to bed with me, he'd be playing video games, so it's not like I drag him away from anything important or productive.

It is like getting a 5 year old to go to sleep!!

Sorry for the vent!

MrsBassPlaya · February 2012

Ha. FI and I have had our share of fights about bedtime. My big problem is that I have a VERY difficult time falling asleep when FI is out of the room. I have a difficult time falling asleep anyway, but if he doesn't come to bed for a couple hours, I almost never fall asleep until he does. Thankfully FI usually goes to bed when I do or earlier than me, so it's not often a problem. He can fall asleep in 2 minutes absolutely anywhere. I'm so jealous.

caterpillar85 · February 2012

You are my FI! He works crazy hours, sometimes he has to be up at 2am, like tonight. He has bipolar disorder so he needs a good night's rest. He has to be up at 2, so he should have been in bed around 7. But he wanted to play COD and then watch the Office which starts at 8...
He always says "I fall asleep better if you are in bed with me!" There's no way in heck I am going to sleep at 8! I usually lay there and rub his back til he snores then come back out in the LR and watch tv or... knot.

LadyJ2949 · February 2012

haha! It's so funny you mention this because my FI and I are the exact opposite. He always goes to bed earlier than me and I have a tough time going to sleep. The difference is that he also can't sleep with any light on or with any background noise, so I can't even go in and work on my laptop or read in bed (he says I flip the pages too loudly haha). It is tough because I would prefer to be in there with him when he goes to bed each night but I know I wouldn't be able to sleep and I'd just keep him awake. He doesn't make a big deal out of it, but each night he asks if I'm coming in and I feel bad. I wish I could sleep easier but I just don't know how to force myself!

bridezillatobe2009 · February 2012

I think it's a super un-real expecation to think that he should go to bed when you want because you don't think video games is a valuable use of his time. Why don't you go to bed when HE wants?

I never go to bed before midnight, even if I work at 7am. I work nights tomorrow so I'm staying up all night to sleep all day.

I don't mean for this to come off as b*tch-tasic but you sound like a mom ordering her kids to bed. How did you go to sleep alone before FI?

ekk120 · February 2012

I know exactly what you're saying about wanting him to go to bed with you! I think that its pretty normal. I once saw an advice column and an older married couple said that their #1 advice is to "always go to bed together". I thought that was so cute!

I dont really have any advice for you, because Im not really sure of the best way to approach it. But I completely understand your feelings!

DirtyWater · February 2012

Yes! I stay up if the TV is on. When I get tired I like to go to bed. FI, on the other hand likes to sleep on the couch sitting up. It takes me about 10 times waking him up and saying lets go to bed, before he will up up and go to bed. It drives me insane. He complains that he doesn't get any sleep.....hellooooo.....this is why! It's like he feels like an old man if he goes to bed before 11. I kind of wish we had a tv in the bedroom again.

hollyweenOR · February 2012

A little- I work nights, so when I try to "flip" to sleep during the night when I'm off, it doesn't always work, and he usually has to get up at 6 or 7, so he's often drowsy at 9:30. It seems to help when I go "tuck him in" (I know, sounds juvenile) and we can spend a little time together, that makes him feel better about me going back downstairs to watch tv or whatever for a few hrs. No sense in me sitting up til 1am or whatever.

Katiesue04 · February 2012

I know it seems weird but I need to fall asleep with the TV on, and I wake up to the lilttlest noises in the middle of the night, when I am sleeping before my fiance goes to bed then he will sleep with me, if I can't sleep then he sleeps in the other bedroom, he hates to sleep with the tv on.

mamameech · February 2012

We do get into lil spats about it... FI gets up at 4:15-4:20 am so that he can go to the gym before work, and of course, it wakes me up so I'm out of bed by 5am. I don't always mind because it's the one time of the day I have to myself, before my son gets up and the chaos of the day begins.

It's the evening when he goes to lay down on the couch after supper, falls asleep in front of the TV and then goes to bed before I even get my son to bed. I get that he's tired, I AM TOO, but he's asleep on the couch at 7pm and then in bed before 8:30 pm. He really needs his sleep whereas I can function on much less; and have to!

At least it gives me quiet time to do my DIY projects lol

anyone else argue about bedtime??

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