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Pregnant bridesmaid

MelindaM83MelindaM83 member
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Hi Everyone,

First off I just want to say thank you for all those who have responded to my other posts, your advice has been so helpful.

I just found out the one of my nieces, who is also a bridesmaid is pregnant. While I have no problem at all having a prego bridesmaid in the wedding, I'm wondering if it will be an issue with the church. She is 20, and unmarried...I don't know if they will even bother asking her situation or not. I was wondering if anyone else would know their stance is on it. I'm hoping they won't even ask.
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  • mica178mica178 member
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    edited December 2011
    I doubt they'd ask. I had two pregnant bridesmaids in my WP (both married, though), and my priest did nothing more than congratulate them.
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  • Hope61Hope61 member
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't think it would be a problem.--like PP, I really doubt they would ask. And besides for the two people (likely your MOH and BM) who are signing the marriage certificate, your wedding party are just additional wedding guests so far as the Church itself if concerned. Congrats on the new addition to your family :)
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  • Riss91Riss91 member
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    edited December 2011
    It shouldn't be a problem, at all :-)

    Sometimes the priest will require your official witnesses to be practicing Catholics, but you'd only need 2 people and they can be anyone (though usually the MOH and Best Man)

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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    edited December 2011
    i cant see that he'd ask her martital status.

    and she can be a practicing catholic - and be pregnant out of wedlock.  everyone sins - doenst mean she isnt practicing because she may have sinned once that happened to result in a lifelong committment.
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  • clearheavensclearheavens member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree, we are all sinners, and her being pregnant and unmarried is just one of many ways we all may sin.  It has nothing to do with your wedding or marriage. :p And the priest will just congratulate her!
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  • MelindaM83MelindaM83 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks everyone...yeah we are all really excited for the new addition...we haven't had a little one in the family for a long time.
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  • virgincitavirgincita member
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    edited December 2011
    God bless her. No Catholic should ever judge a women who is expecting out of wedlock, and I doubt it will be a problem. We all know the alternative to children out of wedlock is abortion...and so of course we prefer the children! God bless her for choosing life for her baby. She should not be ashamed AT ALL and if anyone says anything to her you can send them to me!! haha...

    We all sin. Her sin just happens to be more public than most of ours. That baby will be a blessing and your niece is equally blessed to have such a supportive family!!
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  • mariadperezgmariadperezg member
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    edited December 2011

    Question! I've just learnt that some catholic wedding-related traditions are different in the US and Mexico (where I'm from). In this case for example, even if the priest knew the girl is unmarried he wouldn't say anything. My question is: What about pregnant brides? Here in Mexico, you can actually get married being pregnant, (of course I'm sure there are very conservative priest who would not approve) it's not that uncommon.

    Thanks, and good luck on eveything Melinda!

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  • mica178mica178 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_pregnant-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:615Discussion:b971e790-101c-40a9-968e-2912cb766f99Post:4a3e86bf-d085-441d-9a99-d9442712ca32">Re: Pregnant bridesmaid</a>:
    [QUOTE]Question! I've just learnt that some catholic wedding-related traditions are different in the US and Mexico (where I'm from). In this case for example, even if the priest knew the girl is unmarried he wouldn't say anything. My question is: What about pregnant brides? Here in Mexico, you can actually get married being pregnant, (of course I'm sure there are very conservative priest who would not approve) it's not that uncommon. Thanks, and good luck on eveything Melinda!
    Posted by mariadperezg[/QUOTE]

    I'm sure that most priests would prefer that pregnant women in stable relationships be married rather than not.  I'm sure there might be a little disapproval, but again, the greater good would be to allow the baby to be born into a family with married parents than most other alternatives.
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    edited December 2011
    i'm sure here you could get married while pregnant too.   if the expectant mother has made her confession and is forgiven, and has been given proper counseling regarding her sins, and the priest feels that she is entering into the marriage of her own free will, and not just because of the pregnancy or demands by the father, then there is no reason why she cannot still be married in the church.  yes, some priests may not want to marry her, but the church does not forbid her from receiving the sacrament of marriage.
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