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Help! Regretting My Venue

sfennell1sfennell1
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Good Morning Ladies......

I know I should have stop looking at venues when I settled on one but I tend to check them out every now and then. Now I'm having second thoughts about the one I chose. I thing that's making me feel regrets is that I won't have an outside ceremony. Ugh

Can I cancel with my current venue?
Would I still owe them for the full contract or would the just keep my deposit?
How does this work?

I really like another venue that can't accomodate my date but could offer the day before.
 
Please talk me in or out of this  
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  • Laurms15Laurms15 member
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    edited December 2011
    Well there is a chance you won't have an outside ceremony even if you change venues. There is no guarantee it won't rain.

    The amount of money and ability to get out of your agreement would be listed in your contract. Every single venue is different so you have to check and see what it says.

    How soon is your wedding? Have people made travel arrangments? Have they gotten invites or save the dates?
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  • Danes983Danes983 member
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    edited December 2011
    Where did you pick?
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  • maddie7maddie7 member
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    edited December 2011
    Stay where you booked, save yourself a headache- what if it rained that day anyway? What really matters about your day is the love between you and your husband and sharing it with others. 
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    Why do you feel like your venue won't be able to accommodate an outside ceremony?

    If that's truly an issue, but you're confident that you could have a nice reception there, then you could book a park or another nearby outdoor location for your ceremony. But like PP said, if it rains then there's nothing you can do about it no matter what venue you book, and you would need an indoor location on standby anyway.
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  • sfennell1sfennell1
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    edited December 2011
    @ Laurms. My wedding is August 14. I have sent Save the Dates but invites.
    @Danes- Richfield Regency

    Am I being ridiculous ?
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  • cutiepie12702cutiepie12702
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    edited December 2011
    I would not do this. There is no guarantee it won't rain on your wedding day - so you may not be able to have an outside ceremony anyway. Just think about all of the reasons you selected your venue in the first place - something like not being able to have an outside ceremony really isn't a valid enough reason to change venues after you already made your decision. As far as what you would owe them if you did, your contract should explain all of the info in it. I know with my venue they would just keep all of the money we already paid up until that point, but every venue's contract is different. Honestly, I would stick with what you have and make the best of it. Obviously when you booked it you knew that you could not have an outdoor ceremony, but that didn't stop you then because something else about the place was more important than that detail.
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  • Danes983Danes983 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would stick with the Richfield. It gets great reviews. You wont be disapointed, but if you move and it rains you may regret the move.  Plus in August it can be very humid and hot.  Think about you standing outside in your dress and your FI in his tux.  Could be pretty brutal IMO.
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  • akmackayakmackay
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    edited December 2011
    Stick with it. If you already sent out STDs many people have probably already booked travel, especially since it's in the summer.
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  • maddie7maddie7 member
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    edited December 2011
    What one do you want to switch to?
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  • angel33284angel33284 member
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    edited December 2011
    You are putting WAY too much emphases  on the hall making your wedding special. I have been to weddings at some of the best halls in Philly and the weddings sucked. But have also been to kick ass weddings at fire halls. 

    The DJ, photographer, videographer, planner, and guests are all more important to the success of your wedding than just a building.
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  • Denise91980Denise91980 member
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    edited December 2011
    I was supposed to have an outside ceremony...but it poured, hence all my umbrella pics.
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  • Pharo47Pharo47
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    edited December 2011
    There's a park right down the road from the Richfield Regency and it's very pretty (i believe there is a nice stone bridge). See if you can work something out with the city for its usage and look into rental cost for chairs. I met with the lady at Richfield and she was very nice. She may work something out with you.
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  • sgdc2011sgdc2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    There is a reason why you originally chose your venue.  I say stick with it. 
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  • golfrgalgolfrgal
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    edited December 2011
    I think everyone gets buyer's remorse a few days after signing.  It's normal to be unsure of yourself after a big ticket purchase. 
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  • 37 Butter Knives37 Butter Knives member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://northjersey.weddings.com/Sites/weddings/Pages/main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_venue-16?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:dc5d0d9c-4d0d-49f4-9613-b7643aba6555Post:568c3053-aa87-4c0f-9789-c90b7bd72957">Re: Help! Regretting My Venue</a>:
    [QUOTE] Plus in August it can be very humid and hot.  Think about you standing outside in your dress and your FI in his tux.  Could be pretty brutal IMO.
    Posted by Danes983[/QUOTE]

    THIS! A lot of people who want outdoor ceremonies don't really think about the heat issue. Handing out fans and water bottles for your guests isn't going to be that much of a help!

    If your heart is still set on outdoors, see if you could do the ceremony at Verona Park (just keep in mind that you'll probably have random people sneaking a peek). If you can't do it, you probably already know it's a gorgeous spot for photos. :)
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  • sfennell1sfennell1
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    edited December 2011
    @Pharo that's a great idea!

    I think you have all given me some food for thought. I haven't been there in awhile and have forgotten how excited I was about it. I'll probably make a trip over

    Thanks Guys. I think that was a little insane. I just keep over obsessing over every aspect of my wedding
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  • kristen8040kristen8040 member
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    edited December 2011
    Stick with it!! Richfield has great reviews on here!
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  • futuremrsdaviesfuturemrsdavies
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    edited December 2011
    I understand feeling that way.  I chose my venue in winter (without seeing the outdoor area) and booked in spring and I immediately felt like I should have kept looking.  I only went to 2 places (my venue first and then another that made me run to my first location) which probably didn't help matters, but I loved the location, the amount of food for the price, and some internal details of the room.  It took my fiance bringing me back to look at it again and looking at some pictures of the outside for me to feel secure again.  Don't change it, you chose it for a reason
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  • bereasonable2bereasonable2 member
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    edited December 2011
    I've been to a lot of my friends weddings, both indoors and outdoors.  For me, as a guy, it didn't matter - it was nice either way because the day was about two people in love celebrating.  Obviously, as a bride, these things are probably more important.

    I say change venues if it's something you're going to kick yourself for not doing.  They probably will keep the deposit, so hopefully it wasn't too much or you could tell the new venue what the deal is and maybe they will cut you a break so you don't lose too much.
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  • cindy9178cindy9178 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_venue-16?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:dc5d0d9c-4d0d-49f4-9613-b7643aba6555Post:0c1f29d4-7367-4635-b936-697748d66fc1">Re: Help! Regretting My Venue</a>:
    [QUOTE]@ Laurms. My wedding is August 14. I have sent Save the Dates but invites. @Danes- Richfield Regency Am I being ridiculous ?
    Posted by sfennell1[/QUOTE]

    Our wedding is at the Richfield Regency also... at first, we were considering an outdoor ceremony and when we found the Richfield and realized that wasn't possible, at first, I was having second thoughts.. but then I realized, there is still a chance of rain, so even if you use a venue that has an outdoor ceremony space, it isn't guaranteed that it won't rain, and you might end up inside. Many venues don't have a very nice indoor area for a ceremony, and you could end up getting squeezed in somewhere that isn't that nice. The chapel at the Richfield is huge and beautiful... so if you are using it, I wouldn't be worried at all. (we actually decided to get married in a church instead).. but I definitely wouldn't change the venue. I have heard many great things about the Richfield and I'm sure you won't be disappointed.
    If you really want to have the ceremony outside, you can use Verona Park, it is literally right across the street. We plan to take pics there before the reception.
    And definitely take a trip there again.. I had forgotten how much I liked it, and when we went there for a bridal show a few months later, it reminded me why we picked it :)
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  • LianceLiance member
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    Did you ladies pull through and have your wedding at the Richfield? What are your thoughts. 
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    Liance said:
    Did you ladies pull through and have your wedding at the Richfield? What are your thoughts. 
    This post is almost 3 years old.  I doubt most of the people are even active on here anymore.  If you have a specific question about a venue, feel free to start a new thread.

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