DADzilla!!!!!!

JLW0504 · March 2011

I am having trouble getting through to my dad about planning the wedding my FI and I want. He's only interested in planning the wedding HE wants. He's gotten to the point that he's planning things(like the rehearsal dinner!!) behind our backs. He's starting to upse my FMIL AND FFIL. How do I let him know that he's out of line without having to turn my b*tch switch on?

newsgrl39 · March 2011

Question first..Who is paying for the wedding?

GoBucksOH · March 2011

I agree with PP in needing to know who is paying. The reason is b/c if your dad is paying for the wedding, then guess what - he gets to say where his money is going to be spent. If you would prefer a wedding set by your own standards, then I suggest that you pay for it all on your own.

Now........if you are already paying for everything and your dad is being this way, then its time to stop including him in on so many details. Just be very vague about details and if he offers up any type of help, politely refuse and tell him that you already have it handled.

mahoganieyes · March 2011

I can just imagine a Dadzilla. Good luck!

wenkerml · March 2011

Even if the dad is paying for the wedding doesn't mean he gets to plan it! It's still ultimately the brides wedding?! Yea he gets a say and opinion in things but he isn't the bride..Parents pay for the wedding most of the time but the bride still plans most of it...

Have you actually sat down with your dad and talked to him? Say what you said here?

newsgrl39 · March 2011

I think out of respect for your dad, if he is paying then he should be included in the decision making.. my mom is paying for my entire wedding so I have compromised on some things because of that.

If he is but you just don't like his decisions, then I would tell him that as much as you think "blah blah" is a great idea, you would maybe like to explore this "blah blah" and let him be involved when you go to vender meetings.

make him aware of the pros and cons for each decision he is making.

Now if he isn't paying then you just need to remind him that its your money and you would like to decide what it goes towards.

GoBucksOH · March 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_ohio-cincinnati_dadzilla?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:108Discussion:90e784d8-1f77-4ad3-83fc-57e6e44dc254Post:b74766e2-c461-4d9e-ac6c-7e14939223f1">Re: DADzilla!!!!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Even if the dad is paying for the wedding doesn't mean he gets to plan it! It's still ultimately the brides wedding?! Yea he gets a say and opinion in things but he isn't the bride..<strong><em>Parents pay for the wedding most of the time</em></strong> but the bride still plans most of it... Have you actually sat down with your dad and talked to him? Say what you said here?
Posted by wenkerml[/QUOTE]

This is a totally FALSE statement. Just FYI.

JLW0504 · March 2011

I am paying most of the cost with my fiance. My parents are chipping in what they can, but it's not even half the cost. My father is a take charge kind of person. It's always been his way or the highway. I have had several argue,ents with him about the wedding. I just don't konw how else to handle this. He is startingto ruin the funness of planning a wedding.

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