how soon is too soon??

jaimie1689 · August 2012

I just got engaged about 3 weeks ago. We're not planning to get married for another 2 years. how soon is too soon to start planning? i'm just so excited to get started on even the little things but i don't want to bore any of my friends/family for 2 years!!

DustinAndTrish · August 2012

Congrats! I don't think it's too soon to start peeking around and being excited- and I assume your friends and family are just as excited! I'm newly engaged too (about 3 weeks) so I'm not expert, but I think you have several routes to go down. Maybe get the major things now- like the venue and date and then fill in details as you please, or maybe think about some things but then hold off for a few more months. My best advice is to do waht you want but just keep tabs on yourself- if you notice getting overwhelmed or caught up in it and are getting too into it, take a step back and remind yourself what's important. (I have heard that average length is about 15 months, and some of my friends think that is a little too long because they start to OVERplan.) Good luck!

091109brIANna033013 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]I just got engaged about 3 weeks ago. We're not planning to get married for another 2 years. how soon is too soon to start planning? i'm just so excited to get started on even the little things but i don't want to bore any of my friends/family for 2 years!!
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We picked our date back in December 2010 and still have 8 months until our wedding on March 30, 2013. We started planning and booking vendors in the beginning of 2011 and just booked our last vendor this summer. Our friends and family were not really into the whole planning process until we got to less than one year away. It is good to start looking and planning early, especially if you know what you want and what day you want, because you can sometimes get vendors agree to their current prices rather than what the price may be closer to your date. I am very glad we started early because there is less to do as we get closer and less to worry about.

gottadance64 · August 2012

We are not getting married until Sept. 2013, but we started checking out venues to get a ballpark for pricing in February 2012 - 1.5 yrs out. We were able to have more fun without pressure by looking early.

rae&adam · August 2012

i'm also recently engaged (4 weeks) and looking to get married 2 years from now, and despite saying i'm not going to plan things until i graduate next june i'm finding it near impossible not to spend all my time look for ideas and things, especially with enthusiastic friends and family asking me questions and giving me ideas left right and center! i'm not chunnering on about it to people unless they ask me though - besides my mum, she's possibly even more excited than me!

i'm quite indecisive so i have started properly looking at venues as i would like to have that booked nice and early!

JoseD12 · August 2012

I was wondering the same thing since I got engaged (3 months ago) but won't be getting married until the July/August 2014. We had considered deciding on the venues and approximate guest list number before the end of 2012 and then seeing where things go from there but with me attending school and him working, those 2 years may go by too quickly!

ShelbyGT21 · August 2012

Don't ever feel like it's too soon! We got engaged June 2011 and our date is set for 12/21/13. I got on here right away I was so excited! lol. We are now down to about a year and four months left and it's flying by! Not to scare you! lol, but don't discredit any tips/stories you hear on here. They are very helpful I have come to find!

theponz512 · August 2012

I had the same concern. I wanted to have a shorter engagement and get married a year from the proposal (which is our anniversary anyway) because i just wanted to dive head first into planning and researching and everything. But my mom suggested that I push it back 6 months to october, and I am glad she did. Time so far has flown by. I am glad for the extra few months to get everything planned.

It is never to early to start planning, just make sure you set aside time to just enjoy being engaged.

lmd812015 · August 2012

I don't know that it's ever 'too soon'. With a long engagement, it's difficult to make any concrete plans of course. As someone who isn't engaged yet, SO and I already know we want to get married in 2015. That gives me at least three years, so while i'm not booking halls/churches etc. I am browsing a lot for ideas. You can never be too educated and there are so, so many things to think about. Of course, SO and I are also major planners - so maybe this is just part of my personality.

lindseyann410 · August 2012

One thing that can be done too soon is asking your bridal party. Every day there are brides on this board who want to get rid of a member of the bridal party because they either get into a fight or just aren't that close anymore.

Things like the venue, photographer, and caterer book up quickly, so it's a good idea to get started on those things early.

I do, however, suggest that you explore all your options before settling on something. The last thing you'd want is to regret something because you put down money on it before you found the perfect thing, whether it be your dress, flowers, or even the type of wedding.

I absolutely loved my wedding and thought it was perfect, but once it got closer to the actual date, I wished I would have thought about a simple sweet afternoon wedding and bbq reception at a park. It would have saved us a lot of money.

mattycam · August 2012

Since you are 2 years away, I would look into venues. We didn't become officially engaged until 2010 and we booked our venue in 2009 (got married in 2011). This gave us time to save and budget accordingly. We also didn't feel stressed because the wedding we had was 2 years in the making so we didn't scramble to find various vendors or feel we were running out of time.

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