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Too early for a bridal shower?

Lilshell812Lilshell812 member
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Hi all,

I'm getting married in September 2013 so I was planning on sending my STDs this month (6 months prior). My sister just told me the invites for the bridal shower will be going out by late March/early April, which makes me thing the shower is in May.

I figured the shower would be in July/August but I know early summer is a busy time for her at work. Is May generally too early to have a shower for a Sept wedding? I don't want to complain to her about this if it's a non-issue...so I figured I'd ask.

It just feels strange to me that the STDs and bridal shower invites would go out so closely together. Thoughts?
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Re: Too early for a bridal shower?

  • itzMSitzMS member
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    I don't think it's too early.

    She should probably have asked you if you were available that particular day for a bridal shower, but it's really not your choice as to what your hostess selects.
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  • Betje81Betje81 member
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    My wedding is in August and I'm having my shower in mid April.  Having more than 3 months is okay, IMO.  Mine is in April since it's the best time for everyone to be able to make it- it's whatever works best for your hostess.  Just make sure your are registered! :-)

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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    It's a tad bit early but I can understand it being that people go away during the summer.
     
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  • mlg78mlg78 member
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    You need to ask her the date of the shower BEFORE the invites go out to confirm.  
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  • Lilshell812Lilshell812 member
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    She won't tell me since it's supposed to be a surprise. Thanks for the input all!
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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_too-early-for-a-bridal-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:52bbd0d3-fad8-4ac2-b628-9550698af9b6Post:6923e185-c3f6-4015-9c46-1eeb84d46818">Re: Too early for a bridal shower?</a>:
    [QUOTE]She won't tell me since it's supposed to be a surprise. Thanks for the input all!
    Posted by Lilshell812[/QUOTE]

    Yeah IDK why people in our area insist on surprise showers.  This blew up in my moms face though. She thought she was going to surprise me by having my shower 6 month early and booked it. To bad I was working that day.  They had to scramble and postpone until 2 months before.
     
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  • TwiceBrideTwiceBride
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    Not early at all.  My daughter  is getting married in September.  Her save the dates will be going out six months prior.  The time to have showers is now. I think that's preferable than having a shower too close to the wedding date.  Let your sister throw you a shower now!  My daughter would love a shower early!  Have fun at your shower!
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  • TwiceBrideTwiceBride
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_too-early-for-a-bridal-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:52bbd0d3-fad8-4ac2-b628-9550698af9b6Post:6e21a792-a5f1-4b74-a439-8b8a338a0be7">Re: Too early for a bridal shower?</a>:
    [QUOTE]TwiceBride, showers should NOT be held after the wedding invitations are sent out.  This is to ensure that no non-wedding guest is invited to the shower.  A lot can happen six months or more from the wedding. It's become more acceptable to host a shower in the "last trimester" before the wedding. Earlier than that is really too early for etiquette purposes, unless it just can't be helped, as in this bride's case. 
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
    That's why you don't invite people to the shower that won't be invited to the wedding.  I know my etiquette but thanks for your response anyway.  
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  • TwiceBrideTwiceBride
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_too-early-for-a-bridal-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:52bbd0d3-fad8-4ac2-b628-9550698af9b6Post:6e21a792-a5f1-4b74-a439-8b8a338a0be7">Re: Too early for a bridal shower?</a>:
    [QUOTE]TwiceBride, showers should NOT be held after the wedding invitations are sent out.  This is to ensure that no non-wedding guest is invited to the shower.  A lot can happen six months or more from the wedding. It's become more acceptable to host a shower in the "last trimester" before the wedding. Earlier than that is really too early for etiquette purposes, unless it just can't be helped, as in this bride's case. 
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
    That's why you don't invite people to the shower that won't be invited to the wedding.  I know my etiquette but thanks for your response anyway.  
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  • lizybefflizybeff member
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    Six months IS too early for a shower.  Besides, it's much more fun to hold it close to the wedding when there is plenty of excitement in the air! 
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  • mmi102581mmi102581 member
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    My wedding is June 1st and my showers were thrown mid February in NC which is my home state as I live in Texas now where my fiance was living and February worked out best to fly back in for both showers for everyones schedules involved.  Otherwise, I would probably have gone with March if I were more local.  My save-the-dates were sent the last week in December, therefore, anyone invited knew they were also invited to the wedding.  I just mailed out our actual invitations this past week because we have quite a few out of state guests attending needing to book flights, so if that is the case, all should be taken into consideration.  I have been in about 7 weddings considering I am almost the last of my friends to marry (which is perfectly fine...you know yourself better the older you are :) and I have seen many different ways, but typically showers are not much out other that 3-4 months prior to the wedding.  Happy Planning!
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