Bridesmaid Just Dropped Out.......

Kimberly0402 · July 2012

So I'm getting married in 25 days and one of my bridesmaids TEXTED me and told me that she can't be part of my day and she's sorry. Nice, right? As if I don't have enough stress with the final wedding details (and we were in a car accident on Sunday).........

littlemoments324 · July 2012

I hope you guys are okay from the accident & no one was hurt!!!

She didn't give a reason as to why she was dropping out? Just remember that it is going to be an amazing day no matter what...You're marrying FI!!! Everything else is a minor detail!

Kimberly0402 · July 2012

She was all gung ho up until a week ago. She was working with the other BM and my MOH to plan my bachelorette party and whatnot. Everything was fine, but she "can't be part of my day" now. My MOH was speechless and said she fooled us all. No one had any idea this was going to happen. What is worse is that she did it over TEXT. She didn't have the guts to call me and tell me herself. I'm trying to be positive and think that this is a blessing in disguise. A friend of my FI has graciously volunteered to step in for us. She's good people and I just think the world of her (long before she made this offer) I just have to hopefully get her a dress in time.

As for our accident, we are okay. We were rear ended (again). I was hit at the end of March. Thankfully we were in the Silverado and we weren't injured. Just one more thing to deal with on top of the wedding, settling his father's estate, my mother's heart, etc.....but we are good at that. LIfe doesn't seem to what to give us a break sometimes....just adds more and more to our already overfilled plate.

avsfan33 · July 2012

Do you think maybe something happened between her and the other girls? have you tried talking to her to see wtf? I totally get being mad though as you can see from my post.

People can be stupid sometimes but try and remember all the people who ARE going to be there for you and your FI.

..I should listen to my own advice. I'm still fuming at FI's friend haha.

littlemoments324 · July 2012

yeah, I would try and talk to her to see what's up....something must have happened....

avsfan...girl I feel ya...I was ticked for 2 days about FI's BM...I really hope he shows!! But WE ARE GETTING MARRIED!!

Lisariqua · July 2012

Glad you weren't hurt in the accident.
Everything else will work out. Too bad she couldn't tell you in person or a phone conversation.

mekiakoo · July 2012

I'm sorry about that. Try talking to her and see what's going on, maybe??

[Deleted User] · July 2012

I'm glad you guys are okay from the accident.

As for the BM, I would try talking to her to see if something is going on either with her, or with her and your MOH. Personally, I would hate to lose a friendship over a wedding.

michelle11988 · July 2012

Im glad to hear you and your FI are okay from the car accident. I'm sorry your bridesmaid just dropped out. Did she give a reason at all? I would say that is pretty sucky at this point and doing it via text is just worsens it.

Kimberly0402 · July 2012

Her reason was that she couldn't be part of the day knowing that she wouldn't "be there 100%". Things have been strained for the last couple of months since the new boyfriend came around. He's very controlling (I've seen him in action) and her whole personality has changed since this guy. She's known him since HS, but in HS she was a little heavier and he didn't like her, but she's lost the weight and now he likes her and keeps tabs on how often she goes to the gym and what she is doing and who she is with. She's "the happiest she's every been", but says it in a monotone. I should have known when she didn't come to my bridal shower because "she hurt her legs at the gym" the night before. Whatever. It's over and problem solved. A friend of ours offered to stand in for her and to be honest I'm relieved that we won't have to worry about her getting too drunk and making a fool of herself and us on our wedding day.

BrightFirefly · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Her reason was that she couldn't be part of the day knowing that she wouldn't "be there 100%". Things have been strained for the last couple of months since the new boyfriend came around. He's very controlling (I've seen him in action) and her whole personality has changed since this guy. She's known him since HS, but in HS she was a little heavier and he didn't like her, but she's lost the weight and now he likes her and keeps tabs on how often she goes to the gym and what she is doing and who she is with. She's "the happiest she's every been", but says it in a monotone. I should have known when she didn't come to my bridal shower because "she hurt her legs at the gym" the night before. Whatever. It's over and problem solved. A friend of ours offered to stand in for her and to be honest I'm relieved that we won't have to worry about her getting too drunk and making a fool of herself and us on our wedding day.
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That's very sad...I feel for her..and my heart breaks. I honestly think controlling SOs are a form of abuse and people get trapped in that "I can't think for myself" mentality like battered women/men get into...

AlyssaLovesKris · July 2012

I had two bridesmaids back out via text... Which also means that both of my flower girls were out. THEN 12 days before the wedding, a groomsman dropped out at least he called!. Lovely!

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