Hello.
How are you girls dealing with teh coworkers on the guest list issue? We have a small venue and a small guest list. We invited just over 100, but are hoping for about 80 to show up (of course we will accommodate over 100 if they RSVP yes). FI and I used to work together for years, so our mutual friends are at my old job, where he still works. We each invited our families, and we invited our mutual friends from his job, a couple people that he has met in the past 8 months that I haven't worked there, and I only invited 2 people from my new work. Everyone is nice to me at my job - but they are all about retirement age and we do not "hang out". The 2 that I did invite are the only other younger girls in my office and we take breaks together, so of course I invited them, they are like friends. The 2 invited are keeping it quiet and understand why. The other ladies (not invited) have been asking about the wedding, when it is (one wrote the date on her calendar) and when I am going to be doing invites, etc. Do I tell them they are not invited because the venue is small... do I say nothing and let them figure out they are not invited? It's starting to get uncomfortable because I do not want to hurt anyone's feelings, but there is no room for my whole team (and bosses) to be invited, plus I am not close to them. What are you doing about coworkers and how do you tell people that they are not invited?
Thanks!
110 Invited!

| 65 Have their dancing shoes ready!

| 35 Don't wanna dance.

| 10 Must still be looking for their dancing shoes!

RSVP Deadline: February 28th
Re: Inviting Coworkers, not inviting coworkers -
Our guest list is down to 251 now and every time I look at it, I see a few of my friends and think, "Why DID I invite them anyway??" Not because we're not friends anymore but just because I've moved so many times and their lives have taken on new challenges and we just haven't seen each other in a long time. Then I remember that if I hadn't invited my friends, FMIL would have just invited more of her family members/friends that FI and I have never met or he hasn't seen since he was tiny and there's no telling when someone's going to be in the mood for a family reunion ;-)
I would just tell your coworkers that you're trying to keep the guest list down and, unfortunately, you can't invite everyone from work. Older women LOVE weddings so I can see how they'd get excited. If you think they'd go for it, maybe suggest going out as a group after the wedding for cocktails or something and they can celebrate with you that way. Just word it carefully so they don't think you're going to be paying. lol
58 invited
20 can't make it
RSVP Deadline: March 8th
RSVP Deadline: March 8
110 Invited!
RSVP Deadline: February 28th