Addressing couples as Mr. & Mrs. in invitations?

Re: Addressing couples as Mr. & Mrs. in invitations?

• 2dBride member

  

  September 2010

  Technically, it should be Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.  Of course, that will irritate half of your married female guests.  The other half will be irritated if you use the form you are contemplating.  There is, unfortunately, no way you can address a woman who has married and changed her name that will not irritate at least some of them.  We ended up asking each couple individually what they wanted.  Another alternative would be to write Jane & John Smith without the titles.

  
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• kathrynhabibti member

  

  September 2010 edited September 2010

  [QUOTE]Technically, it should be Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.  Of course, that will irritate half of your married female guests.  The other half will be irritated if you use the form you are contemplating.  There is, unfortunately, no way you can address a woman who has married and changed her name that will not irritate at least some of them.  We ended up asking each couple individually what they wanted.  <strong>Another alternative would be to write Jane & John Smith without the titles</strong>.
  Posted by 2dBride[/QUOTE]
  Yep, there's that.
  
  There was something similar to this a couple days ago, and one of the things I'd suggested was "Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Smith".  This way you can use titles, use your married female friends' first names, and keep the men's first and last names together which you are supposed to do. I've not actually found what etiquette would dictate about this but it seems like it would be okay. (Famous last words <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />)
  
  Sorry CH, the reversed order just looks a bit.... not <strong>bad</strong>, just kind of off.

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• JoyMatt424

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_addressing-couples-mr-mrs-invitations?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:27305a26-ac00-4397-a8e0-f9e5261bdf3cPost:f27ac709-f16a-4085-8902-7b9cf7fdb6bc">Re: Addressing couples as Mr. & Mrs. in invitations?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Technically, it should be Mr. and Mrs. John Smith.  Of course, that will irritate half of your married female guests.  The other half will be irritated if you use the form you are contemplating.  There is, unfortunately, no way you can address a woman who has married and changed her name that will not irritate at least some of them.  We ended up asking each couple individually what they wanted.  Another alternative would be to write Jane & John Smith without the titles.
  Posted by 2dBride[/QUOTE]
  Yeah I agree with this. I don't think you can please everyone here and I think I'll probably end up using Mr. & Mrs. John Smith. But you could do Jane and John Smith without the titles, depending on how formal you want your invites to be.

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• clearheavens member

  

  September 2010

  Ohhh, great advice! Thanks for your input.  Man, I love this board for the brilliant ideas....

  
  
  

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• Lisa50 member

  

  September 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_addressing-couples-mr-mrs-invitations?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:27305a26-ac00-4397-a8e0-f9e5261bdf3cPost:389f232b-b5c5-42d6-bc28-9a64d5995375">Re: Addressing couples as Mr. & Mrs. in invitations?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Ohhh, great advice! Thanks for your input.  Man, I love this board for the brilliant ideas....
  Posted by clearheavens[/QUOTE]
  
  It's Mr. & Mrs. John Smith ... good luck!

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