Ok so I'm about to unless the motherload of wedding dilemmas (at least out of the ones I'm encountering)... So my mother, who I love (usually), is married to a JERK (I could use much worse words, but I'll keep it clean). He has openly stated that he dislikes me, my sister, my fiance... etc... Everytime I have been around him in the last 10 years he starts a fight, like yelling, temper tantruming (on his part)... he has ruined numerous occasions with his bad attitude... so I'm sure you see where this is going... He is not invited to the wedding. There have been 2 really big blow ups where my fiance has almost come to blows with him defending me.. and we decided we do not want this at the wedding.
My mother knew before FI and I were even engaged that we felt this way... but after the blow up in October she has stated that she will not attend wtihout him. I've only spoken to my mom twice since this happened, the first time she told me she was sorry and that her husband would make her life miserable if she tried to come without him (this is when she called from work and was alone), the next time she called she acted like a lunatic yelling at me that she doesn't support this marriage and I should seek a psychologist (I'm not that crazy I swear...) and just being really mean... After she ended the phone call she immidiately called her 2 sisters (my aunts) and tried to forbid them to come to the wedding as well...One aunt is coming the other is not as of now.. None of them have formally RSVPed yet...
So I've kinda come to terms with all of this now, I kind of expected my mom to call when she received the invitation, but my FI pointed out that mom's husband probably threw it out...which got me a bit annoyed again... hence this post... (he has done this a number of times before...) But just needed to vent about the situation, thanks for listening...