What to do with a teenage bridesmaid? - HELP!

kandibabe2607 · October 2010

Hey! I am trying to plan the bachelorette party/lingerie shower for all of us bridesmaids, but one of the bridesmaids (the younger sister of the bride) is 15. We don't want her to feel left, but we also want to be able to have fun with the bride without having to step on egg shells. The bride wants to have a drink - also, I know some of the other girls will get her kinky lingerie, and the bride said she will feel uncomfortable with her sister around both of these. What is the best way to remedy this and bring both together? We really want her to be involved, but we want to have fun too! HELP!!!!!!

cookiesandwine · October 2010

What about including her for dinner out then do the racier gifts later, like somone's house or a bar's party room?

heyimbren · October 2010

I don't know, I think it's kind of rude to exclude her from all the activities just because you want to have fun. She's still a BM. Is there any way you could do something that would include her, yet still allow those of you who are of age to have a drink? Such as going out to a restaurant for dinner, going bowling, etc. Obviously you want to do something that the bride enjoys, but I think the sister should be invited at least since she is a part of the BP. A bridesmaid can always turn down an invitation to a party, but I don't think she should be exluded.

trix1223 · October 2010

I'm with heyimbren. You can do a bar crawl anytime. You can have a lingerie (which to me woud be punishment, but that's another thread) party.

But I think it's mean spirited to plan a b-party that you know one of the BMs can't attend. Buy naughty undies and go drinking another night. But plan a b-party that everyone in the WP can attend.

anwilcox · October 2010

We are doing facials and a mineral makeover followed by lunch with just the bridesmaids earlier in the day because my MOH is going to be 8 months pregnant when we have the b-party. Then afterward we are going to do the whole bar scene that night with all of my female friends that would like to go out. Two events on one day but one is exclusive to the bridesmaids so that MOH doesn't feel left out because she will be so pregnant. (Another bridesmaid is planning the bar part and I helped MOH with the first part because she is tight for time and money with the baby coming.)

LizHZ · October 2010

I like the idea of a 'thing' like dinner, spa fun, fondue, a tea, etc with everyone followed by or in addition to a separate 'clubby' night.

likeadeadstar · October 2010

Agreed - do a special BM only event that's PG-13, and do a racier one later that night. A 15 year-old would probably love a spa/brunch deal.

Manwaithiel · October 2010

The "baby" in my group IS the MOH and my younger sister. I know she's planning the bach party. One of my ex-friends who is no longer a BM (long story) joked how I was going to be humiliated at my bach party because she was going to embarrass me. I can just tell you that I put my foot down and said that if my MOH wasn't going to be comfortable with what she planned, it sure as hell wasn't happening. We "broke up" as it were and that's no longer an issue, but I really think excluding her from any bach party festivities is pretty low.

Kate61487 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_teenage-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:6ab4f134-1386-4b2c-8cb0-8fab2d3a1feaPost:7fc0748a-1ce9-46a6-b4bd-ebbba34a093f">What to do with a teenage bridesmaid? - HELP!</a>:
[QUOTE]Hey! I am trying to plan the bachelorette party/lingerie shower for all of us bridesmaids, but one of the bridesmaids (the younger sister of the bride) is 15. We don't want her to feel left, but we also want to be able to have fun with the bride without having to step on egg shells. The bride wants to have a drink - also, I know some of the other girls will get her kinky lingerie, and the <strong>bride said she will feel uncomfortable with her sister around both of these</strong>. What is the best way to remedy this and bring both together? We really want her to be involved, but we want to have fun too! HELP!!!!!!
Posted by kandibabe2607[/QUOTE]

I wonder why this is? With the drinking - is she planning on getting wasted? and thus isn't comfortable with her little sister there? because I don't understand why someone would be uncomfortable having A drink in front of a 15 year old? As for the lingerie - gifts aren't a key component of a b-party, so those who want to give her racy gifts could do so privately; pull the bride aside and give her the gift so it's not a big deal and her sister probably wouldn't even notice.

I went to a b-party a few months ago hosted by the bride's underage sisters (who were co-MOHs). They had the party at their parent's house (an ideal party spot with the walkout basement / pool layout). They got margarita machines and made strawberry and lemon slushies (there were bottles of tequila and rum next to the machine, so you could make yours a daquiri or margarita if you wanted). then did goofy crafts and played drinking games; it was a lot of fun. I think you definitly can make it PG-13 and still have a good time.

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