MOH Advice

Re: MOH Advice

• paprika28

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  Your friend knows her body- If she thinks she can handle it, I would trust her. The most she's required to do is stand (or even sit, if need be) next to you, walk down the aisle before and after you, and be introduced at the reception as your MOH. If she goes into early labor, please don't replace her though.
  

  
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• Ri23ta member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  You are getting married June 2nd and she is due two months if not more later. I think you should be fine! Her dress will be a tough thing to work around, but other than that, she is your best friend. A two peice bridesmaid dress might be a good idea or even a cocktail length party dress that really puffs out. My bridemaids include one who just had triplets and another who just had twins about 8 months ago and is pregnant again. I will be getting married at 30 yrs old and people are having babies. I mean really all of my friends are having babies...lol! No worries

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• paprika28

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  Rita- her friend is due at the end of June, so she'll be 36-38 weeks along.
  
  
  PS- OP. Just because she's planning on it, doesn't mean it's going to happen. Don't stress unless it does.

  
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• spanglerwedding2012

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  That's tough. Who knows - just because they begin trying in Sept. doesn't mean that's when it will happen. It's out of your control - but maybe just share your concerns. Remind her that it's a long day of getting ready, in a dress, posing for pictures, standing at the ceremony, out and about in the hot month of June. Weddings can be a long day, even for someone not pregnant. Let her know that you simply don't want her to be overwhelmed if she happens to be pregnant at that time.
  
  Wait it out and see what happens. No sense in worrying now. But like said above, don't replace her if she happens to be preggers. If she says she can handle it, take her word for it...and go from there. Good luck!

  

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• Ri23ta member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  oops....def. read sept. Sorry yikes! I would be worried too, but it's not going to get you anywhere. It is what it is. Do you have any other bridesmaids, if so they will need to step up, which i am sure they will be glad to do! good luck
  

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• spanglerwedding2012

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  Rita - that's a good point! I would be stressing too, Lauren. But even if your MOH happens to be ridiculously preg, don't forget you have all of your other girls to support. It'll all work out:)

  

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• ButtonsPepper member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  Ditto what another said, just because she's going to try in Sept. doesn't mean she'll get pregnant in september. I'd just be supportive of her decision, and hope it all works out. She'll def. be able to do everything leading up to the wedding, and if god forbid she goes into labor around the same time.... you'll have your family/other bridal party members around you. I'm due just shy of 3 weeks before my brothers wedding, and I'm in it... and I hope the little one stays in there until after the wedding (sept. 24th, due oct. 9th)... but We were trying for a year.... and it just so happens that's when I got pregnant. you do what you can and make the best of the situation.

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• Lauren0409 member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  Thanks for all the advice.  I was really bothered, but I've calmed down! 
  
  She has gotten pregnant on her first try with both kids, so I wouldn't be surprised if she did get pregnant right away.  I don't understand why she can't wait till the next month, so she would be due in July. It's not my place to suggest that though. If she was having problems getting pregnant, it would be a completely different story.  I guess I'm just annoyed because I did make her aware 2 months ago that she did not have to take on the MOH responsibility. 
  
  I know my other bridesmaids will step up to the plate though

  

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• kiskra

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  My wedding is in 11 days (July 22) and my sister (my MOH) is due Aug 8. She couldn't be more pregnant ...and (with my Mom)... threw a bridal shower yesterday. She is handling it fine. 

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• ButtonsPepper member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-philadelphia_moh-advice-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:105Discussion:7ddccb98-710b-4c78-905c-8f3573fe220bPost:80452122-a08b-4329-b9fa-f94a17ce08da">Re: MOH Advice</a>:
  [QUOTE]Thanks for all the advice.  I was really bothered, but I've calmed down!  She has gotten pregnant on her first try with both kids, so I wouldn't be surprised if she did get pregnant right away.  I don't understand why she can't wait till the next month, so she would be due in July. It's not my place to suggest that though. If she was having problems getting pregnant, it would be a completely different story.  I guess I'm just annoyed because I did make her aware 2 months ago that she did not have to take on the MOH responsibility.  I know my other bridesmaids will step up to the plate though :)
  Posted by Lauren0409[/QUOTE]
  
  My sister got pregnant by accident the first time, and right away with the second, and it took her 10 months and lots of vitamins etc. for her third... so before you get too worried, wait and see. Even if she does get pregnant right away, it will all be fine. I ordered the normal dress all the other BM's did and am just having it altered to fit my big old belly. The bridal shower went off very well, and I'm still feeling well enough to do anythign she'd want for the bach party. If she's been pregnant twice before, she knows how she'll feel 3 weeks before being due, and she probably knows she can handle it. It will all work out :-).

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• rockstarnat

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  I was in a wedding where one of the bridesmaids was really pregnant.  she looked so cute and we made sure she got a lot of professional pictures of her and her belly, something that she wouldn't have. It was so nice for her to have the pictures. 

  
  

  Also, like others have mentioned, she can get help from the other bridesmaids and mothers to plan. It shouldn't be a problem. If you want her to be your MOH, then you should have her as your MOH. 

  
  

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