I have two younger sisters who I love, but both admit that they are too young to be the maid of honor. I have an older cousin who will be a bridesmaid, but she is alot older than I am, but doesn't know me as well as my friends or sisters do. I also have two friends who I am equally close to and would be hurt if I asked the other to be the maid of honor. I've also been getting close to my fiance's sister for the past year, but I feel like it would be a little bit strange to ask her to my maid of honor.
My solution to the dilemma was to just eliminate the title and distribute the responsibilities to all of the bridesmaids. My fiance is going to ask his brother to be the best man, and wants me to have a maid of honor to match. There are an equal number of groomsmen and bridesmaids, so it is balanced.
My question is: Can I get away with not having a maid of honor?
Re: Do I have to have a maid of honor?
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You don't need to have a MOH, no. Lots of people have not gone that route, and it's been fine.
Your "sides" do not have to be even.
Enjoy.
You need a bride, a groom, a license, and an officiant, and in some states, a witness.
Tell your FI you love him with all your heart, but you'll pick your WP and he can pick his.
If, by "dividing up responsibilities," you are talking about designating one girl to hold your flowers during the vows, one girl to walk with the Best Man, one girl to sign the license as the witness, one girl to give a toast ... that stuff is fine. Divvy away.
If you are talking about the stuff on wedding websites and magazines (throw you a shower/bachelorette party, coordinate the bridesmaids' dress shopping trips and measurements, help with planning, etc.) - that is not their responsibility. If they want to help out with this stuff, or throw you a party, they will volunteer. If not, then they won't, and giving them the MOH title won't automatically make them responsible for it, or make them eager to do it.
MOH should be your closest friend(s). It's fine to have two if you wish. So there's really no reason why your younger sisters couldn't be the Maids of Honor. If they're under 18, you can just ask an older bridesmaid (or a parent) to sign the license since you need someone 18+ to do that.
1) Any adult who witnessed the ceremony can do this
2) Some states/counties require only one witness, and some none at all.
So it's not really an issue because it can be sorted out in about thirty seconds.
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