Will guests bring cards to an engagement party?

MarcyLT · April 2011

Some family friends are throwing us an engagement party. It's apparently customary on FI's side of the family, but not on mine, so I'm a little lost.

Do people generally bring cards to an engagement party? The reason I ask is that they're holding it at a restaurant where there will also be a public entrance and I'm wondering if we should have some sort of card box there. But I don't want to be presumptuous. Thoughts?

Beachy730 · April 2011

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[QUOTE]Some family friends are throwing us an engagement party. It's apparently customary on FI's side of the family, but not on mine, so I'm a little lost. Do people generally bring cards to an engagement party? The reason I ask is that they're holding it at a restaurant where there will also be a public entrance and I'm wondering if we should have some sort of card box there. But I don't want to be presumptuous. Thoughts?
Posted by MarcyLT[/QUOTE]

<div>Whether or not they do bring cards I'm not sure because I've never been to or had an engagement party. However I'm pretty sure if I walked into one and saw a card box, I would be horribly appalled. </div>

mica178 · April 2011

I don't know what's usual with your FI's crowd. I've been to unofficial engagement parties but not real, formal ones. For those, usually people bring bottles of wine but not money. I'd probably skip the cardbox and carry a large purse that can handle cards if you receive any.

heartxsongs · April 2011

I recently attended an engagement party for a friend and about half the guests brought a gift or a card. I don't think it warrants a card box though.

midgetthemighty · April 2011

They may, they may not. I wouldn't make a card box though.

tenofcups4me · April 2011

In my crowd, registry gifts are the norm for an engagement party. Even if guests bring cards with cash, though, I would imagine most will hand them directly to you or the groom or your parents. I wouldn't have a card box. As long as someone has a handbag big enough to throw cards into, you should be good.

kgorman307 · April 2011

How large is the party going to be? Unless you're expecting to receive 100 cards, they should be able to fit in a large purse as PP mentioned. I wouldn't worry about a card box.

mattycam · April 2011

Our engagement party was small so only a few people brought cards. It wasn't expected of them so we didn't have a card box.

Kate61487 · April 2011

I'd just have a bag to toss them into - PPs are right, a card box seems a bit presumptuous and might make some guests uncomfortable

MissOwl · April 2011

tuck a folded up reusable grocery bag into your purse.

DNAtime · April 2011

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[QUOTE]tuck a folded up reusable grocery bag into your purse.
Posted by MissOwl[/QUOTE]

This is a really good idea. At our E-Party we got some cards, some gifts. Lots of wine, a bottle of tequila and some flavored condoms :) seriously.

A card box it OTT but you may want a discreet place to place things that are brought.

MarcyLT · April 2011

Thanks, ladies, I appreciate it. I thought I was on the right track, just wanted to make sure. I'll definitely just plan on stowing them myself.

AbbeyS2011 · April 2011

I like the reusable grocery bag suggestion. I use them all the time - really handy in the summer to throw towels in when we go to the river.

mariegra · April 2011

Our engagment party had about 30 people attending at a private room of a restaurant. A few people, (maybe 5-6) brought cards. We didn't think of it until we were there, but the waitress placed a small basket, (like the kind used for bread), by the cake on the table and we ended up putting the cards there. (Didn't have the 'big purse' that night).

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