I have 3 bridesmaids, one being my maid of honor. She hasn't been as proactive as my other bridesmaid, who is my soon to be sister in law. I feel that their titles should be switched but I just can demote my current MOH. Can I have both a maid of honor and a matron of honor?
Please HELP ME!!
Re: Bridal Party
And no, to everything. You can't demote people. If you can't plan and execute your wedding on your own, with help from FI, you need to scale back.
[QUOTE]I think maybe using the word "demote" you're giving people the wrong impression. I don't see why you couldn't have both a maid of honor (traditionally an unmarried person) and a matron of honor (traditionally a married person). Also, you might want to be more clear with your MOH what your expectations are. It could be a disconnect caused by what you're expecting and what she thinks you're expecting.
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Totally agree. It is actually fairly common to have both a Maid AND Matron of Honor... you can easily add this extra person without the perception of "demoting" anyone. Maybe use the angle of "I know this role is a lot of work, so I thought it might help if you can share the load!"
Good luck and happy marriages to all of you.
MTSF-- you are welcome on these boards anytime. Don't let others scare you away, just because they don't agree with something.