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Bridal Party

I have 3 bridesmaids, one being my maid of honor. She hasn't been as proactive as my other bridesmaid, who is my soon to be sister in law. I feel that their titles should be switched but I just can demote my current MOH. Can I have both a maid of honor and a matron of honor?

Please HELP ME!!

Re: Bridal Party

  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited December 2011
    You're extremely rude and I'm hoping this is MUD.  I also answered you on M&M.
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  • vicki0508vicki0508 member
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    edited December 2011
    If you're going to post the same thing on multiple boards, it's polite to put XP in the title.  It means cross-post.

    And no, to everything.  You can't demote people.  If you can't plan and execute your wedding on your own, with help from FI, you need to scale back.
  • edited December 2011
    I think maybe using the word "demote" you're giving people the wrong impression.  I don't see why you couldn't have both a maid of honor (traditionally an unmarried person) and a matron of honor (traditionally a married person).  Also, you might want to be more clear with your MOH what your expectations are.  It could be a disconnect caused by what you're expecting and what she thinks you're expecting.
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  • a-c-da-c-d member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-austin_bridal-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:126Discussion:aeaee525-7cff-4005-a6cb-eeb85a49f0c0Post:356f1970-b50f-493d-b8b4-b1445657c99b">Re: Bridal Party</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think maybe using the word "demote" you're giving people the wrong impression.  I don't see why you couldn't have both a maid of honor (traditionally an unmarried person) and a matron of honor (traditionally a married person).  Also, you might want to be more clear with your MOH what your expectations are.  It could be a disconnect caused by what you're expecting and what she thinks you're expecting.
    Posted by Future Ramsey[/QUOTE]

    Totally agree. It is actually fairly common to have both a Maid AND Matron of Honor... you can easily add this extra person without the perception of "demoting" anyone. Maybe use the angle of "I know this role is a lot of work, so I thought it might help if you can share the load!"
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  • MTSF1226MTSF1226 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for all your responses! You have been a lot of help. I meant no disrespect to anyone. I have been communicating with my MOH the best I can. I know things will work out for the best.

    Good luck and happy marriages to all of you.
  • MTSF1226MTSF1226 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not sure what you mean by MUD, but I think you miss understood what I was trying to ask. You don't seem like a nice person, but I will wish you well and happy marriage anyways.
  • edited December 2011
    MUD Made-Up Drama

    MTSF-- you are welcome on these boards anytime. Don't let others scare you away, just because they don't agree with something.
  • MTSF1226MTSF1226 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks BabyBlueNTexas! Next time I will have to be more clear about my questions; my choose of words aren't always the best. lol Have a great day!!!
  • astrobunny5astrobunny5 member
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    edited December 2011
    I actually have both myself. Since my sister lives in Cali, she won't be able to participate in other activities like the shower and the bachlorette party. She and my mom may have been a little miffed about it, but they got over it quickly. Just take the angle that there may be a lot of responsibilty and you didn't want all of it to fall on one person. Good luck!
    Melanie
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