So FI's twin sister is his bestest friend. She's gay. He wants her to be his best woman. My mom who is TOTALLY against gay people for no effin reason at all is not for her being his best man. I have said countless times ma this isnt your wedding, if that's who FI is comfortable with being his best man, then thats who its gonna be. She went on to say she isnt a man, and she confused and stupid and all these other really mean comments about her. My mom has never even met FIs sister who happens to be one of the nicest people I have ever met. She shouldn't be punished for her taste. I told her there are plenty of weddings where there is a best woman and a man of honor. SO WHAT. She said so thats other people not you. My mom said she has a total problem with this whole thing, and if FI's sister is the best woman then she's not participating or helping with anything wedding related. She said she won't even come. That's when I got pissed. Its my damn wedding. I'm your only child. What you mean you not gonna come to my wedding just because of who the best man is. I told her thats fine. If thats what yu wanna do, then stay home. The wedding will still go on. With or without you. I can't believe you would let your hatred for gays come before my wedding. I'm not wrong, right.??