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jeanacorinajeanacorina
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So, we have 66 RSVPs "YES," 31 "NO," and 69 (I think) still floating around unreturned. RSVP date is Saturday. I hope people send them back!

We could still have 135 guests. It seems like such a big crowd. I guess this is what all those theater and speech classes were for. Not giving presentations in a room of 20 people. Nope. Those classes were to prepare me to say my wedding vows in front of 135 people.

*deep breath*

We knew if we didn't go to the courthouse we'd end up with a big wedding. This isn't a surprise. It's just.... a big number. To me. I'm sure other brides would love to have 300 guests. Josh and I would have been thrilled with 30.

Anyway, so... some things I've noticed:

90% of these RSVPs come back with no return address. I have two with no name written in the blank. Number your RSVPs (on the back, in the corner, in little tiny print) and have a numbered, master guest list to check them against.

Putting a line that says "Number of guests attending" doesn't help you get an accurate head count. Does the "2" mean it's just the couple... or does the "2" mean the couple is bringing their two kids? Our best man checked "accepts" (obviously) and wrote in "0" for number of guests attending. We had a good laugh about that. Oh, well. I tried.

I just received a gift from a person I've never heard of, who FI has never heard of, with no return address. FI is going to check with his mom to see if she knows the person. But honestly, the craziest things happen with wedding stuff! I want to say "Thank you so much for the gift" but I don't know where to send the gratitude! lol

The local guests who got their invitations last week have now sent back more RSVPs than the out of town guests who got theirs last month. They're making travel arrangements and booking flights and hotels. I mean, I guess if they buy a plane ticket, I can assume they mean "yes," huh?

Oh, family! Innocent

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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
    1000 Comments Third Anniversary
    edited December 2011
    Very good tip on numbering the invites! Good one.

    Good luck with the RSVPs. How are you going to handle that? Call the remaining people? Get your familiy to help call? Just wondering how you stalk people. Nicely of course.
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  • hetshuphetshup member
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    edited December 2011
    That numbering idea is FANTASTIC. Seriously, it's the best idea ever. I'm really excited about it. 
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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    We numbered ours as well.  Lifesaver. 
    People like to RSVP late.  I am not sure why but most of ours came at the very, very end. 

    Hopefully you are able to get the guestlist from her soon.  I know how stressful that must be.

    For those that didn't RSVP, we split it up.  FI contacted his friends and family, while I contacted mine.  We called all people 1st.  For the true misfits, we followed that up with an email.  I still had people who refused to RSVP and tried telling me they didn't know less than 2 weeks before the wedding.  I am still bitter about paying for their meals. 

    P.S. Those who couldn't give me an answer did not have actual reasons for not knowing if they could attend.  I bet no one on here could guess as to who those people were in my family.

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  • jeanacorinajeanacorina
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    edited December 2011
    We're also planning to split it up like that, Mutley. My mom has already agreed to call her family and my dad's family if she needs to. But she's been in communication with everyone anyway. That's how I know who's buying plane tickets (but hasn't RSVP'd).

    FI and I will call any dilly-dallying friends. And I'm sure FMIL will call any of her list that doesn't send an RSVP.

    I'd be bitter about paying for no-show meals, too! But from what I hear that's pretty common for people to RSVP yes and not show up.

    FI forced me to do that once. We were invited to a wedding in New Orleans, and we bought their gift and I got a new dress to wear, and 20 minutes before we needed to leave (when I was dressed and ready to go) FI says "I don't feel like going."

    And he REFUSED to get off the couch.

    Granted, we weren't that close to the couple. I was surprised we were invited at all. But I felt SO BAD that he and I agreed to go and RSVP'd yes... and at the last minute he just didn't feel like it.

    Karma's gonna get me. Embarassed
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  • KD+BCKD+BC
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    edited December 2011
    DEEP BREATH!!!

    Day of, it won't matter how many people are there just that you and Josh are going to be saying your vows to each other. Who cares how many people hear. Say them to Josh!

    I'm so excited for your wedding and can't wait to see pics and hear all about it. It will all come together and it will be fabulous!

    ps. Numbering the RSVP cards is genius and I will definitely be doing this and never would have thought of it before.
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  • Button5807Button5807
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    edited December 2011
    I've never heard of number the cards but I agree with hetshup, best idea ever.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    Numbering idea was a smart one - I'm glad I won't have to use it though. Hah!

    I sure hope you get flooded with RSVPs this week!
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  • ekathleen684ekathleen684
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    edited December 2011

    The numbering RSVP's is a great idea.

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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    Jeana the number thing is BRILLIANT! Good thinking on that;)

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  • jeanacorinajeanacorina
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    edited December 2011
    Well, I don't want to take all the credit-- I probably swiped the idea from the amazing Mrs. Mutley. Wink
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  • sapphirebaby926sapphirebaby926
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    edited December 2011
    Numbering our cards saved my sanity - you wouldn't believe how many people just forget to write their names in there!
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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    We had a lot of names that were illegible. 


    Also, it wasn't so much that they didn't come, it was that they didn't come after waffling back and forth for so long.  (And had just hosted a wedding a month earlier, so they knew how annoying it was.)
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  • tafft1tafft1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Seriously numbering them is brilliant and whoever came up with the idea is one of my favorite people right now. And what PP said - just try to relax and I am sure they will come flooding in soon. I am so excited for you I can't believe the day is almost here for you ! Time is flying by and I want pics to flood this board ;)
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