Long story short, the two are trying to plan my bachelorette party (which they both excitedly and graciously offered without prompting) and its not going well. They have completely different tastes and budgets in mind, not to mention they both get on each other's nerves. I feel completely stuck in the middle. They constantly talk to me about each other and how they can't believe the other did this, or didn't do this.I got phone calls from both of them today and it was the worst it's ever been.
There have been conversations from my BM that she resents the fact that I have MOH in her position, because she could do a much better job. I do my best to remind her that really all I expect from everyone is to get their dress and show up, but she constantly insists that my MOH is letting me down and "It's not ok". My MOH is very go with the flow (hence why I chose her to be my MOH over by pushy BM) but even she seems to be losing her patience with this BM and her demands.
Examples: My MOH was planning a small gathering, a spa day in town with a nice dinner afterwards, and my BM insisted that we go to Vegas (despite the fact we are all working with a small budget). They compromised and we are going away for the weekend to our family friends cabin, but BM is insisting on limo service and a pricy dinner where MOH was thinking something more low-key.
I don't care either way, I'm just excited to spend time with my girls, but I am just SO sick of hearing them go back and forth about each other, when they rarely actually communicate with each other. I told them both that they could just let me know where and when, but if it was all the same to them, I would rather stay out of the planning. I played it off with my BM that I just wanted a surprise, but I told my MOH that I need a break from the bickering, and she agreed to stop (she was not the main instigator).
It's coming up in two weeks and I just see this getting worse, not to mention the wedding.