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Just venting ;)

hisbabygirl76hisbabygirl76 member
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I love my FI. I really do. I am the one who would give my eye teeth to just go to the beach say our I dos and be done. He wants the eloborate wedding (im obliging with some stipulations). Anyway. I asked him if he had asked my BIL about being in the wedding. Said BIL is leaving for 9mths to go over seas (army) in a few days and we wont be able to ask about things till he comes back. FI was like, "so december gives us plenty of time". I should mention he is a last minute planner on EVERYTHING but our engagment. Love the man dearly but his thinking we have tons of time to put all this together is driving me insane. Alls we have is my wedding dress, the BM's lined up and their dresses picked out. We have no major checks as of yet. I stress about everything lol. Im the planner.

Anyone elses FI putting things off like there is all the time in the world? Or I am losing my mind thinking he should have his groomsmen picked out by now?

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  • melb2013melb2013 member
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    Ha if I left anything up to my FI, nothing would be done.  I'm also the planner, so I know that I have to do things myself for the wedding.  I left it up to him to send the celebrant contract and deposit and I have to remind him at least 5 times and it took him weeks to just send on piece of paper.  

    If you're the planner, I say that you need to do it yourself or you're going to go crazy!  I know I would be!

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  • pittpoint1119pittpoint1119 member
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    hahaha they are all the same. SOunds like my fiance and yours are the same kinda. Mind thinks planning can happen the week before.. He thought we could get a hall, photographer and all the stuff later.. then his mom and I talked with him about why we need to get some stuff done. The one thing he told me to wait our (our photographer) I went and booked. He wanted to wait. SOme stuff you just have to do yourself I am convinced. I love mine too but gezzz men.. We can't live with them and we can't live without them. It will get better :) just talk with him
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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    I'm a planner too, always have been. FI doesn't leave things to the last minute, but gets stressed easily.

    FI has had his GMs picked for a while, but one's kind of up in the air since he's kind of a flake most of the time so FI doubts if he'd even be able to rent a tux and remember to pay for it lol.
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  • rswansrswans
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    I actually only have my MOH and one of my bridesmaids picked out while my FI has all 5 on his side picked out. I'm waiting to see how things are over the next few months with who I'm still close to, plus I'm debating if I want to put people who will know each other or from different parts in my life, etc. 

    Otherwise though, I'm really on top of stuff. I narrow down the options, give them to my FI, and make sure he likes what I've picked. So far, no major problems. There are some things he really cares about and others that he doesn't at all. The latter can be frustrating when I've spent hours researching something and he barely looks at it and is like "ok, sounds good." It'd be nice if he realized how time I put it, but I've realized we're coming from two different POVs. I look into it because I like it and it's just as fun as the actual day (hopefully!), where as he just wants a kick butt party for his friends (and family). 
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  • mymissingpuzzlepiecemymissingpuzzlepiece
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    My FI actually is just as involved as me... he has opinions about everything! Lol. 
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  • hisbabygirl76hisbabygirl76 member
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    Its funny orignially my sister was calling him groomzilla. now its like...yeah there is plenty of time. Does the "sounds good" ALOT love him though lol
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  • FLGatorGal88FLGatorGal88 member
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    Yep my FI is the same way... Lets wait to do just about any and everything... I have no clue who groomsmen are going to be... I asked him to make a list of  everyone who he wanted to invite to the wedding because I have a feeling getting 80+ addresses is going to be a pain in the rear... So his response was we can do it Sunday... We shall see if it happens tomorrow after my morning workout...
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  • Danny&Mel2003Danny&Mel2003 member
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    Everything we've done for the wedding has been because of me lol every time we meet with a photographer or anything related wedding he says wow babe I'm glad you started this now I didn't realize they book early ... He is in charge of the groomsmen getting there tuxes together and I finally got him to reconsider wearing his military blues!!!! He does have all 6 of his groomsmen picked an has had them picked since August whereas I have 4 an I think one of them doesn't understand the magnitude of being a bridesmaid I love her she's amazing person & friend but I'm going have I have serious talk with her .... Last night she was asking me to be bridesmaid and I felt pressured an put on spot because her sister was asking too and was awkward situation
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  • hisbabygirl76hisbabygirl76 member
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    So glad to know mine isnt the only one. Many days I just seroiusly thow my hands up and think "let him plan this big ole whoop dee doo on his own and see how it turns out". I figure I got my dress the rest is up to him LOL. Thanks ladies
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_just-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:dcb0e8aa-1281-40a1-9806-845a169ca6a7Post:b2695198-1999-4c99-8891-8524197270fb">Re: Just venting ;)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Otherwise though, I'm really on top of stuff. I narrow down the options, give them to my FI, and make sure he likes what I've picked. So far, no major problems. There are some things he really cares about and others that he doesn't at all. The latter can be frustrating when I've spent hours researching something and he barely looks at it and is like "ok, sounds good." It'd be nice if he realized how time I put it, but I've realized we're coming from two different POVs. I look into it because I like it and it's just as fun as the actual day (hopefully!), where as he just wants a kick butt party for his friends (and family). 
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    This! I talked to him about it and he has tried to give more input, and when he asked me for something specific he could do- I gave him something he was interested in and he was very happy. He found a hotel for us to stay in for part of our HM. I try to remember he IS A GUY, so he doesnt have much of an opinion on little stuff like flowers and tablecloths, but I keep him involved with the big stuff
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