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ksulliva135ksulliva135 member
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So my fiance and I just celebrated our 5th anniversary of being together, and it was also the 2 month mark til we get married.

Needless to say we had a wonderful day (and night) together. But after celebrating, he springs on me that he wants to hold off on having sex again until we get married. WHAA? lol it was so out of nowhere for him! Like I had thought about it, but I wasn't going to bring it up, and then he brought it up all on his own.

Is anyone else doing something similar? It just feels strange to me... not bad, but different!!!
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    cinderellasjccinderellasjc member
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    funny you brought this up.  FI wanted to stop around the 4 month mark.  I was not having that...considering we have sex 3-4 times a week. .  but we agreed to wait starting one month before.   I do think it will make it more exciting on our wedding night (if we don't pass out first).  I have seen some other conversations about this, and  I think alot of brides are doing this.
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    SmithWedding815SmithWedding815
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    My FI wanted to do the same thing and im with ya there I am not having it! he wanted to wait 3 months I said id try for one! I dont know about you ladies but im gonna be pretty aggravatedby the honeymoon with all the wedding planning stress! Good luck! If your like me your gonna need it ;)
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    BubbsNBubbsBubbsNBubbs member
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    I had suggested this to my Bubbs....and he just laughed at me. He said that I am going to be more stressed out than I have even been in my life with wedding planning...esp in the few weeks before and that the most effective stress reliever for the both of us some sexytime.

    If I really, REALLY wanted to do something like this....he would be willing to abstain for the week or two before...no more. For fear of my head spinning in circles from the stress of dealing with planning the wedding with my mother. 

    He knows me TOO GOOD ladies.
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    PopPowPopPow
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    Yeah not happening. We have lived together for 2 years. All abstaining is going to do is make me cranky. lol
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    LuckyGirl1713LuckyGirl1713
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    my FI and I decided that we would abstain a month before the wedding, but I know it is going to be incredibly difficult for both of us.
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    pengy16pengy16 member
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    I tried saying we should not have sex before the wedding around the 6 months mark. He looked at me and laughed and said yeah right. I doubt we could hold off too long. 
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    SmithWedding815SmithWedding815
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    Im with ya poppow! Living together makea it harder. But I thought qith us not having sex maybe it will be more special but truly it should be special anyway right? I just dont want to be cranky the Weeks up to the wedding
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    SmithWedding815SmithWedding815
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    Im with ya poppow! Living together makea it harder. But I thought qith us not having sex maybe it will be more special but truly it should be special anyway right? I just dont want to be cranky the Weeks up to the wedding
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    cinderellasjccinderellasjc member
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    Sounds like novelty stores across the country will be busy this year!!!!!!
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    ChiGirl2013ChiGirl2013 member
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    It wouldn't be so bad...... there's other "stuff" you could do. 

    I will say, though, that after waiting 6 weeks after I gave birth to our daughter, I know not to expect a marathon on the wedding night if we decide to do something like this.
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    NinaTonyNinaTony
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    Umm... we have attempted to do this several times.  First it was no sex at our one year mark, that lasted 3 days.  Then there was the six month mark, we did much better and lasted one week.  Then we decided three months would be plenty of time, well just just say we failed again.    So... MAYBE we can do with one week of no sex before the wedding.

    With that said, I think it is a nice thing if both of you are on board.  It will make your wedding night, and honeymoon MUCH more exciting!  I'm picturing the scene from Twilight  New Moon.

    And, GOOD LUCK!

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    i2012doi2012do member
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    oh oh! i am going to suggest this. I have like No sex drive whateso ever since i put on a lot of weight recently so thats not all that hard for me, but it will be for my fiance!
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    FINALLYtobeMrsMFINALLYtobeMrsM
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    I'm new this this borad, but it was refreshing to see me and FI aren't the only ones trying this. We agreed to 1month before we leave for Oahu (arrive 9/17/12 wedding 9/20/12, but I don't know how long that will last.  We move into our new place next month so he proposed we "stock up for the winter" until Aug 17th or "D-Day" as he calls it lol. Best of luck to you ladies and it's not the end of the world if you don't make it lol.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_plus-sized_sex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:973cdc6f-961e-4fb0-a628-bef2bb559697Discussion:fc2a0ba0-a4ae-4418-a77c-82dd7f630e3aPost:0c298817-7d7a-4b05-aad3-18407e4cd7a1">Sex...</a>:
    [QUOTE]So my fiance and I just celebrated our 5th anniversary of being together, and it was also the 2 month mark til we get married. Needless to say we had a wonderful day (and night) together. But after celebrating, he springs on me that he wants to hold off on having sex again until we get married. WHAA? lol it was so out of nowhere for him! Like I had thought about it, but I wasn't going to bring it up, and then he brought it up all on his own. Is anyone else doing something similar? It just feels strange to me... not bad, but different!!!
    Posted by ksulliva135[/QUOTE]

    My fiance had just got engaged and we are talking about if we should hold off for awhile before our big day and I think we are planning for a year before our wedding so it will be kind of new and fun again!
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    adaisyandaroseadaisyandarose member
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    Well this is out for us I think. I get more cranky when I don't have regular sex plus our honeymoon will involve kids and inlaws so I don't think a lot of sex will be happening there. lol (There has got to be somewhere on the beach we can sneak off to right...I hope lol)

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    j&bt2013j&bt2013
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    If you really want to try this... how about EVERYTHING BUT intercourse... remember how much fun it used to be to "make-out" :0 that way the actual act of sex can be special for your wedding night

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    smartn2sexy08smartn2sexy08
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    I don't guess I understand how abstaining is going to make your wedding night any more special. Its only going to make the sex shorter because he can't go as long from losing his stamina. Its your wedding night and will be special no matter what. Me and my future husband won't be doing this no matter what.

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    IdoIdo2014IdoIdo2014
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    We plan on stopping as well about the four to six month mark. No if we can hold out that long is an entirely different story! But we are sure as heck going to try! Lol
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_plus-sized_sex?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:973cdc6f-961e-4fb0-a628-bef2bb559697Discussion:fc2a0ba0-a4ae-4418-a77c-82dd7f630e3aPost:0c298817-7d7a-4b05-aad3-18407e4cd7a1">Sex...</a>:
    [QUOTE]So my fiance and I just celebrated our 5th anniversary of being together, and it was also the 2 month mark til we get married. Needless to say we had a wonderful day (and night) together. But after celebrating, he springs on me that he wants to hold off on having sex again until we get married. WHAA? lol it was so out of nowhere for him! Like I had thought about it, but I wasn't going to bring it up, and then he brought it up all on his own. Is anyone else doing something similar? It just feels strange to me... not bad, but different!!!
    Posted by ksulliva135[/QUOTE]

    FI and I talked about this, too.  I want our 1st time as a married couple to last more than a few minutes. ;)
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    JanefreedomJanefreedom
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    that's not going to happen, I think 3 or  4 days are good to go, at most a week. 3 monthes? , forget it.
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    jenny&will2014jenny&will2014
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    I wish my FI WOULDN'T have a problem with this!! (he could care less about sex-he loves having it but it doesnt really cross his mind more than once a week if that.) although we have been together for 5 yrs, in ALL previous relationships i have never had to initiate sex so i feel offended if i have to say anything more than the word sex for him to be ready to go. :( sorry TMI
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