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Requesting gift cards instead of gifts

spaceylacey99spaceylacey99
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My fiance and I live in Arizona, but will be getting married in our hometown (St. Louis). Because we'll be flying back for the wedding, we don't want big gifts from our guests (due to high checked baggage costs and shipping costs).

How can we (via wedding shower and website) request gift cards/ cash only without sounding rude?
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Re: Requesting gift cards instead of gifts

  • SaraAndrew2010SaraAndrew2010 member
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    You can't explicitly state anywhere that you want cash or gift cards.   Many guests will buy online for the wedding and have gifts shipped directly to your house (or whatever address you put on the registry).  You can also always return the gifts for store credit in St. Louis, then buy them back again in Arizona.

    In general, give your guests some credit.  Many will realize that you don't live near your wedding location and give you gifts accordingly (either shipping them to you or giving you cash).  You can also have your wedding party spread the word, if asked by guests, that you are saving for X, in addition to having a registry.  But you really can't put anything on your website.

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  • quotequeenquotequeen member
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    You can't.  For the shower, the point is for guests to watch you open physical gifts.  For the wedding, you should never be instructing your guests on what not to get you, or telling them that you only want particular type of gifts.  You could put a note on your website saying that gifts may be shipped to XYZ address.  Other than that, you just have to trust your guests to know that you will be traveling and they should get you things that are easy to transport, or ship it to your home.
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  • SaraAndrew2010SaraAndrew2010 member
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    Also, the point of a bridal shower is for people to shower the bride with gifts.  People almost always give boxed gifts at a shower.  You're guests will be very offended if you invite them to a shower and tell them you only want cash or gift cards.  It's no fun to sit around a shower and watch the bride open envelopes of cash.  If you can't afford to ship gifts back from a shower (or exchange them), you shouldn't have a shower.
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  • gemini87gemini87 member
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    I will be getting married in San Diego but live in Missouri.  On my wedding website I simply said that because we will be flying in and have very limited luggage space we would appreciate any large gifts be sent directly to our address in Missouri.  I then gave the address.
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    You don't.  I was married in FL when DH and I live in CA.  People who didn't purchase a gift online (and had it sent to our house) gave us cash.  They knew where we lived so I'm sure they assumed cash would be the easiest.
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  • stephdonjonstephdonjon
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    Yep, totally agree with all the pps. Have it shipped to your home address. FI and I will be living in Boston and getting married in Michigan, and that's what we'll be doing.
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