Other roles for other people :)

AlliJae · February 2012

So we decided we are having our siblings stand up with us at the ceremony. However, I have some friends that I want to feel involved in some way and be a part of the day assisting with something or presenting something during the ceremony. This is the list I have so far:

guest book
gift receivers
reading a blessing during ceremony
reading scripture
ushers (4)
parking
bridal assistant
groom assistant
witness for marriage license

Can you add anything to it? I need about 3 more responsibilities for people to fill. Note: I already have a DOC and someone to introduce us/MC the event.

P.S. I know it seems kind of lame to just dump responsibilities on people, but in our circle of friends it's an honor to be "hands-on" for the day of the wedding.

Zimsgirl · February 2012

I think all sound fine except parking

courtneyclare103 · February 2012

Are you having ceremony programs? If so, someone could hand them out. And I agree with Katelyn--parking sounds like the worst job ever! Everything else seems like direct involvement with the ceremony/reception, but parking does not in any way seem like an honor.

HarperBargo · February 2012

What about a prayer before dinner?

Whtara10 · February 2012

What about someone helpin guests get their escort cards. And yea handing out programs & a prayer before dinner are good ideas too.

Melissa603 · February 2012

I'd lose parking and guest book.

julbgordo · February 2012

Being a guest and enjoying the day sound good to me

You can always tack on an additional usher or two as well.

Megbo2012 · February 2012

Readings ae always nice, but everything else is just a job. I understand wanting them to feel special, and maybe some would, but like Jub said, it's nice to enjoy the day as a guest.

Also I think it would make the WP seem less intimate.

midgetthemighty · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Readings ae always nice, but everything else is just a job. I understand wanting them to feel special, and maybe some would, but like Jub said, it's nice to enjoy the day as a guest. Also I think it would make the WP seem less intimate.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Truer words have never been spoken. Well, maybe they have, but these are pretty darn close. ;)

chelseakopperud · February 2012

I know exactly how you feel- that is how people view being asked to help at a wedding around here too... it is an honor even if others look at it thinking its a job. I am having my 3 best friends from college be "honory bridesmaids" in stead of personal attendents. THe name sounds better to me. Pretty much they will just get a flower and hang out with me for the day. It is more of an invitation to be at the RD and be "around" the whole day and not think they are only supposed to show up for the ceremony. I want to hang out with them all day as they ahve been there for me for years. Will they help with stuff? Of course... but not out of obligation. They are already trying to come up with lists of things they can help with!

AlliJae · February 2012

Thanks for the ideas.

The fact is our close friends want to be involved in the wedding day. I have had many people offer. And we are having our siblings are our WP so we are finding ways for our friends to be involved in other ways.

The parking does seem like a crappy job, but we are getting married at my parents home and will need some major organization of the parking (300 guests, parking in a small field and around our driveway in an organized fashion) I know it sounds weird, but people will be happy to help and will still have time to enjoy being a wedding guest. That's just how our close friends are

AlliJae · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I know exactly how you feel- that is how people view being asked to help at a wedding around here too... it is an honor even if others look at it thinking its a job. I am having my 3 best friends from college be "honory bridesmaids" in stead of personal attendents. THe name sounds better to me. Pretty much they will just get a flower and hang out with me for the day. It is more of an invitation to be at the RD and be "around" the whole day and not think they are only supposed to show up for the ceremony. I want to hang out with them all day as they ahve been there for me for years. Will they help with stuff? Of course... but not out of obligation. They are already trying to come up with lists of things they can help with!
Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]

This exactly. I am asking about 10 of my friends to be "Honorary Bridesmaids", They will have pinned flowers, and we will all be wearing TOMS shoes (for something fun). It is mostly a hangout invitation...but they are already offering and wanting to be involved in anyway possible.

So I want it be organized instead of having 10 friends, plus all my aunts and uncles running around trying to "help" when really it is just overwelming for me on the week of/day of when they are asking me 100 questions about what to do.

MMRoberts11 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Readings ae always nice, but everything else is just a job. I understand wanting them to feel special, and maybe some would, but like Jub said, it's nice to enjoy the day as a guest. Also I think it would make the WP seem less intimate.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Agreed.

chelseakopperud · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Thanks for the ideas. The fact is our close friends want to be involved in the wedding day. I have had many people offer. And we are having our siblings are our WP so we are finding ways for our friends to be involved in other ways. The parking does seem like a crappy job, but we are getting married at my parents home and will need some major organization of the parking (300 guests, parking in a small field and around our driveway in an organized fashion) I know it sounds weird, but people will be happy to help and will still have time to enjoy being a wedding guest. That's just how our close friends are :)
Posted by AlliJae[/QUOTE]

Wait- are you talking about my wedding?!?! HAHA! We are also getting married at my parents house and having over 300 guests and parking would be insane if we didnt have people directly traffic! We are asking my uncle to "man the parking" and we are hiring some local high schoolers to help as well.

AlliJae · February 2012

Hahaa. Yeah I'm pretty sure we are getting married on the same day and using hula hoop chandeleirs, too! and if I remember right, our colors are kind of similar. Crazy

I didn't think about hiring people. How are you doing that? Do you have connections with the people you are hiring? I would want the connection to be very distant so that I don't feel bad not inviting them to the wedding. How much are you paying them?

chelseakopperud · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Hahaa. Yeah I'm pretty sure we are getting married on the same day and using hula hoop chandeleirs, too! and if I remember right, our colors are kind of similar. Crazy =) I didn't think about hiring people. How are you doing that? Do you have connections with the people you are hiring? I would want the connection to be very distant so that I don't feel bad not inviting them to the wedding. How much are you paying them?
Posted by AlliJae[/QUOTE]

My dad owns a business and some of his employees have high school aged kids. He is asking 2 of his employees if its ok to ask their sons to help direct traffic. I dont trust high school boys farther than I can throw them, so my uncle will be their "leader" haha! My uncle came up with this idea so I dont feel bad having him do it. And he will only be doing it before the ceremony and then free to enjoy the rest of the night. As far as how much we are paying them I honestly dont know as my dad is taking care of all parking relating issues. I would guess $15/hour or something like that and we will have them there from 5-8:30 or something like that (ceremony at 6:30). They are <strong>NOT</strong> doing valet... they are only directing the cars to places to park and then giving rides to older folks who cannot make the walk to the ceremony.

ETA: What are your colors?

AlliJae · February 2012

That's a great idea. Thanks for the tips!

chelseakopperud · February 2012

What are your colors?

AlliJae · February 2012

Navy, lemon yellow, and a little bit of green...You have navy colors right?

chelseakopperud · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Navy, lemon yellow, and a little bit of green...You have navy colors right?
Posted by AlliJae[/QUOTE]

Yes! Navy and dark pink!

AlliJae · February 2012

Very pretty! Let me know how your chandeleirs turn out. We are trying to do differing sizes and thickness of the rings, so we are going to Lowe's or Menards tonight to look for different, bendable, easy to work with piping that would work well.

chelseakopperud · February 2012

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[QUOTE]Very pretty! Let me know how your chandeleirs turn out. We are trying to do differing sizes and thickness of the rings, so we are going to Lowe's or Menards tonight to look for different, bendable, easy to work with piping that would work well. :)
Posted by AlliJae[/QUOTE]

Thanks! I bought the hula hoops.... now I am just waiting for the excitement of them to wear off Carter so I can steal them away and work on them! How big is your tent and how many are you doing?

AlliJae · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Other roles for other people :) : Thanks! I bought the hula hoops.... now I am just waiting for the excitement of them to wear off Carter so I can steal them away and work on them! How big is your tent and how many are you doing?
Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]

We are doing 1 large tent (60x100. seats 322), we are getting married at another location on my parents' property.

chelseakopperud · February 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Other roles for other people :) : We are doing 1 large tent (60x100. seats 322), we are getting married at another location on my parents' property.
Posted by AlliJae[/QUOTE]

Our tent is 60x120. So how many chandeliers are you doing? We are also getting married at a different location on my parents land :) Is your tent your rain backup for the ceremony or do you have a different back up?

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