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TMI Tuesday- a bit early

LOTON01LOTON01
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I have meetings all day tomorrow and won't get to get on until later at night. So I am posting early.

I watched the show Virgin Diaries on TLC tonight. Did anyone else watch it?

I understand people that chose to stay virgins until marriage or reclaim their virginity. What I didn't understand was the not kissing until married part.

If you are choosing to wait. Why did you make this choice?

If you are or aren't could you imagine going your entire relationship with FI and not kiss?
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Re: TMI Tuesday- a bit early

  • Allycat11Allycat11
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    edited December 2011
    DH and I clearly did not wait for anything until marriage.  I can not even imagine the thought of not kissing him until at the altar.  I didn't see the show but the previews made some first kisses look so awkward.  At 13 my kiss was fairly awkward, and I actually think it would make it even more awkward if it was in a room full of my family and friends. 

    I have a lot of respect for couples choosing to wait to perform any kind of intimate acts until marriage, in this society that is borderline unheard of.  So, if people are able to stick to their morals and beliefs like that, I am very impressed.  What I do not agree with is people "re-claiming their virginity".  Negotiable topic, but you either have had sex willingly or have not...once you choose to give it up...it doesn't come back.  I find it interesting that some couples chose to stop having sex for "X" amount of time until they are married, and I am really not sure why they choose to do that (not insulting the choice, just truly I do not understand it).  I think the people that do it to "re-claim" their virginity are crazy.
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  • Milsey32Milsey32
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    edited December 2011
    I grew up hugging and kissing family (in a non-sexual way, of course). I don't know if that had a role on my thoughts of kissing being a natural way to express one's affection and attraction, but that's how my thought process is. 
    I've kissed a lot of people. 
    No regrets. 

    I don't think I would be the person I am today, nor have had the friendships/relationships I had if I didn't start my crazy-whore-kissing-days at age 11. (Okay, I wasn't a crazy-whore-kisser BUT there was a girl in elementary school nicknamed "the kissing girl" because she chased boys at recess to kiss them. Thankfully, that wasn't me.)
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  • mcven528mcven528
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    edited December 2011
    I was always that girl who wanted that first kiss... So there was no way I could have waited... It is weird to me that people would not even kiss... and I saw a commercial for it and two of them looked very awkward when they did kiss and they did not know what they were doing.  They will never know what it is like to kiss someone who has had some practice, but at the same time, will they really know whether or not their husband/wife is a good kisser or not! Very strange to me
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  • matuofmmatuofm member
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    edited December 2011
    Um...when I had my first french kiss, that dude just about ate my face.  There was wet ALL OVER.  Ewwww.  I would not want to have that memory wtih DH.  ;)

    I just feel that sexuality is a really important component of one's self-ness, so to hold that back before marriage puts you in a world of danger.  That's a piece of yourself that your FI is unaware of and might not be compatible with.  And, if you're waiting until marriage, that YOU'RE not even knowledgable about.  Everyone understands the importance of full disclosure and mutual understanding of financial, emotional, and personality aspects of oneself before getting married, and I just can't see how one's sexual nature/needs don't fall into the same category.
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  • acaponi87acaponi87 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_tmi-tuesday-bit-early?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:13dcbef8-7bca-4c6c-98c9-5e9ee16f7b79Post:eaec3a5f-a429-43b2-8ff7-053f7eb61bfd">Re: TMI Tuesday- a bit early</a>:
    [QUOTE]Um...when I had my first french kiss, that dude just about ate my face.  There was wet ALL OVER.  Ewwww.  I would not want to have that memory wtih DH.  ;) I just feel that sexuality is a really important component of one's self-ness, so to hold that back before marriage puts you in a world of danger.  That's a piece of yourself that your FI is unaware of and might not be compatible with.  And, if you're waiting until marriage, that YOU'RE not even knowledgable about.  Everyone understands the importance of full disclosure and mutual understanding of financial, emotional, and personality aspects of oneself before getting married, and I just can't see how one's sexual nature/needs don't fall into the same category.
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    PERFECTLY said. I think much too often this gets ignored or underemphsized.  I'm very thankful for my experiences before I met FI as I am for with FI.
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