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Guest List trouble

LesleyM85LesleyM85
in Minnesota-Minneapolis and St. Paul
My fiance' and I really want to have a small intimate wedding with with close family and friends, but both of my parents have asked to invite friends that I'm not close to and my fiance' has never met.  Are we obligated by tradition to invite our parents friends, or can we say no?
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Re: Guest List trouble

  • danimarie88danimarie88 member
    100 Comments Third Anniversary
    I'm going through somewhat of the same thing. We want to keep the list at 200 max because that's the church's max capacity. My mom added people neither of us know. I know she would like them to be there, but it doesn't matter to us because we don't know them. I'm curious to see what people say about this.
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  • saric83saric83 member
    Ninth Anniversary 500 Comments 100 Love Its Name Dropper
    If your parents are paying for it, they get to dictate the guest list.  If you're paying for it yourselves, you can definitely tell them no! : )  If you're sharing the cost with both sets of parents or something, you can just have the conversation that each set of parents gets x-number of invites and leave it at that.  Good luck!
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  • LAJ023LAJ023 member
    Third Anniversary 10 Comments
    We're not having a small wedding but my parents invited alot of their friends, which is OK since they're paying a portion of the wedding. We have an agreement if more than X amount of people come, they'll help pay for additional food costs.
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  • sndietzsndietz
    100 Comments
    I agree, it depends on who is paying.  My parents are, and they are inviting people I have never even met.  As my fiance says, "It's their day too."
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