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Registry frustration

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Over the last few months we have been getting a lot of house items from FI's family. It has been mainly housewares like dishes and pots and pans. however, none of the gifts are things we have registered for.bthey know we are registered but have decided to get us other items that they think we want. For example, we were given a 4 place fine china setting that does not go with any existing plates our our dinner wear pattern. We were also given the exact same set of pots and pans and a set of decorative storage containers that we currently have. I am so thankful that his family is thibling of us but they do not have a lot of money to spend. I would rather them save it than spend it on things we do not need or already have. Also, it makes me upset because all this could have been avoided because of the registry. Any suggestions on how to deal with this or should I just let it go?
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  • Ash61612Ash61612 member
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    this is a tough one. You don't want to see ungrateful but I can understand where you are coming from. Can FI talk to them, since they are his family?

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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    That's definitely a tough one.

    There are still plenty of people that don't go off registries regardless if you have one or not. I agree with Ashley about your FI possibly talking to them, although I have NO clue how you'd bring it up or what to say.
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  • julbgordojulbgordo member
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    Honestly, I would return the items and either exchange them for the ones you registered for or use the money towards those items that you actually want/need.  

    A similar thing happened to us this year as well.  FSIL gave us a really nice towel set.  That was great and all ... but we registered for different towels.  Now I have a set that I'm not sure what to do with.  We were talking about just having them as guest towels.
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  • Ash61612Ash61612 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_registry-frustration?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:8b8decfa-092b-4a51-9191-faae65ec49a2Post:b20b85bc-22bd-4822-b3b1-eaf13dceddbb">Re: Registry frustration</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>Honestly, I would return the items and either exchange them for the ones you registered for or use the money towards those items that you actually want/need.</strong>   A similar thing happened to us this year as well.  FSIL gave us a really nice towel set.  That was great and all ... but we registered for different towels.  Now I have a set that I'm not sure what to do with.  We were talking about just having them as guest towels.
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    This is a great suggestion. I hadn't thought of doing this.
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  • diamondx423diamondx423
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    DItto Juls, I'd just return it for store credit and get something else that you wanted.

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  • Shanee18Shanee18
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    I agree with Ash and Julie.  I would have Fi sit down and talk with his family to explain where you are coming from.  Then I would return those items that you will not use.  If the family has the reciepts then you could use the money for items you do want.  However, I wouldn't just go behind their backs and return things without talking to them because you never know when they will come over your house and ask about those items!
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  • sweetcanadian1979sweetcanadian1979
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    I would exchange them, then i would get fiance to sit with his family & explain that although you love the thought you do have a registry available for those who want to buy you things which you picked out what you need. Then give them the info for the future. 
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  • acn6497acn6497
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    Thanks so much yall. We have tried talking to his family about this before but it has not seemed to help. We plan on trying to return the items and explain to his family that we appreciate the gifts but alread have the  items they  gave us. It is a very tough spot to be in and am so glad to see yall have the same ideas about what to do. 
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  • MMRoberts11MMRoberts11 member
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    Ditto Julie.
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