The Two Month Slump

sarahmk5 · June 2010

I've been feeling in a funk lately. I'm just ready for the wedding planning to be over. It doesn't help that FI and I are living 5 hours apart right now, and I'm missing him, and the wedding means finally moving in together. I wish the wedding was over already, and we were just married and done with it.

I guess I'm making myself even more stressed out because of the short time I have to get settled before school starts. We're honeymooning until Aug 11, but will be at my parents home for a few days while I finish packing up stuff. So, we'll be in our new apartment around the 14th, and my classes start the 19th. This doesn't leave me really much time to get used to the area - I'm worried because I'll have to be driving into the city (Pittsburgh), and I've never had to drive in an urban area before, plus I'm a nervous driver who doesn't know the area at all.

If you've made it through my convoluted rant, thanks. Tell me if you had a slump this close to the wedding and how you got over it. Or that I'm being a big 'ol sissy and to man up. Or that you like pudding. Anything is welcome.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

I didn't hit a slump, but I was ready for it to be over. I honestly didn't care all that much about the wedding, I just wanted to be married and start our new life together and all the planning was irritating. But DH and I lived together and weren't moving so we didn't have that added stress. I just took it one day at a time and tried to remember that after it's all said and done, we'd be married and off on our honeymoon for a much-needed vacation.

Is there any way for you to visit the city beforehand and practice driving the route? That might help you get a better feel for the area and be less nervous (I also get nervous in a lot of traffic).

september's bride · June 2010

I did, to a point. I started referring to it as the "damned wedding" and I really wanted nothing to do with it anymore. I just kept reminding myself that each day was going to pass, no matter what happened, and those days were bringing me closer to my wedding day so I'd better make the best of them regardless of how I felt. It really was one of those, "this, too, shall pass" kind of things and I eventually got excited again.

The two month mark is so close, but still so far and it's hard to know how to feel sometimes. Don't worry about it - it's going to get better.

sarahmk5 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_two-month-slump?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3ce13c58-858b-4c5e-a1ce-89447943beeaPost:45562ed2-27a9-4a6d-85b9-948d7af85369">Re: The Two Month Slump</a>:
[QUOTE]I didn't hit a slump, but I was ready for it to be over. I honestly didn't care all that much about the wedding, I just wanted to be married and start our new life together and all the planning was irritating. But DH and I lived together and weren't moving so we didn't have that added stress. I just took it one day at a time and tried to remember that after it's all said and done, we'd be married and off on our honeymoon for a much-needed vacation. <strong>Is there any way for you to visit the city beforehand and practice driving the route?</strong> That might help you get a better feel for the area and be less nervous (I also get nervous in a lot of traffic).
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

<div>I am hoping to get out there once in July before the wedding. It's 5 hours away, so it's not even a "let me go for just one night" kind of thing. But, yea, I'll hopefully be there for a couple days, so I have time to do at least one test drive before the move. I've never wished I had a GPS so much before.</div>

[Deleted User] · June 2010

I definitely did. I got so sick of wedding crap about two months out that I didn't even want to think about it. I was just overwhelmed. A lot of it had to do with the fact that I was dealing with about a million loose ends. Once those started getting tied up, I started feeling much better. It's just so stressful when you know you've got about a million balls up in the air.

sarahmk5 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_two-month-slump?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:3ce13c58-858b-4c5e-a1ce-89447943beeaPost:c5e0d322-898d-490e-bd9f-431b51d04110">Re: The Two Month Slump</a>:
[QUOTE]I definitely did. I got so sick of wedding crap about two months out that I didn't even want to think about it. I was just overwhelmed. A lot of it had to do with the fact that I was dealing with about a million loose ends. Once those started getting tied up, I started feeling much better. <strong>It's just so stressful when you know you've got about a million balls up in the air.</strong>
Posted by cew515[/QUOTE]

<div>That's exactly it. There's so much little stuff to do, and it sucks not having FI here to help with that stuff. He's offered, but, let's be honest, I can design a program much faster and nicer than he can. Plus, he works full time at a job he hates and is applying for new jobs everyday - I don't want to put extra stress on him, especially when there is so little he can do from so far away anyway.</div>

[Deleted User] · June 2010

Yeah. Matt offered to help, but I'm a bit of a control freak and it was just easier to do things myself. Do you have a list of things that need to get done? Are there any that you can do now and get them set aside?

The only other thing that helped me was to just simplify. I was so overwhelmed with work that I didn't have time to even think about the details. I finally just came to terms with the fact that the little details that I had planned on executing were just not going to happen. And that was fine. I did this with favors, guestbook, flowers, and programs. We had favors, but they were something my MIL wanted to do and we ended up not doing programs at all.

I also got a good deal of help from my mom during this time. She saved my sanity.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

Also, does it help to know that every time I read the title of this thread, I think of 2 pump chump instead of 2 month slump?

sarahmk5 · June 2010

Living with my mom has been a double-edge sword. She's helping me with so much, but she's also constantly saying "Have you done this?" I'm working from home, so it feels like I could always be working on work or wedding stuff, and she's not helping. I don't know what she thinks I do all day when she's at work, but it's not diick around and watch TV. So she thinks I should have all these things done, no matter how much I explain that in the time she's at work, I just did as much work as she did. It's definitely adding to my funk that I waver between "shut up, mom" and "thanks, mom" and "I just want to move the hell out" and have nostalgia with packing up all of my stuff.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · June 2010

I hate planning things in general so this wedding BS can get really old, and really overwhelming, very very fast.

I want an awesome wedding, I just wish someone else would do it all for me. Bratty, perhaps... I just don't want to deal with the stress, either. And I've got a few extra months left than you do

sarahmk5 · June 2010

Ahaha. Two pump chump. I could change the title of it and see what people think when they stop in, but then read my message.

skineena99 · June 2010

I totally had the two month slump...and now I'm having the 12 day slump. I'm ready for this crap to be over!! I'm happy people have an interest in the wedding and all, but if you keep asking me every damn day, "Are you getting excited?", "Are you freaking out?", "Are you ready?" I just want to punch someone in the face.

Oh, and the answers to the aforementioned questions are: Yes, no and hells yes.

mandapanda78 · June 2010

I love pudding! Especially butterscotch.

Do yourself a favor, and pre-drive the route you're going to take a few days in advance. That'll help alleviate the stress of wanting to have a great first day and not knowing where you're going all at once.

reddy123 · June 2010

I've been planning for a little over a year, I am now 2 months out, and cannot believe there is still stuff I have to do. I look back and I am boggled a party is this intricate it's taking me year to plan. I spent this last month hating the planning, but as my loose ends were wrapping up, like PP said, I'm starting to get excited again. RSVP's help a lot too, it's like physical proof this thing isn't all in my head and notebook.

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