Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor

Re: Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor

• jagore08 member

  

  December 2011

  The only thing you can do is reassure her that you asked her to be your Matron of Honor for a reason.  If she still wants to step down to BM there's nothing you can really do about it.

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• em01092 member

  

  December 2011

  Have a heart to heart with her about it. Reassure her that you want her as your MOH. If she feels hurt, just explain that your friend is also important to you and you understand if she is hurt, but that was not your intetion. If she brings up bridal showers or party issues, just let her know that if they/she would like to plan something, any one is free to do so and they can collaborate or not. Their decision. 

  
  

  Now, if you have two, you will have to choose one to stand beside you and hold your bouquet. I would do this randomly with names out of a hat or something, and then have the other MOH sign your marriage license to divvy up the MOH duties and so no one feels left out. 

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• cebrady89 member

  

  December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_maid-of-honor-matron-of-honor-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:1166bd80-0407-4776-a97c-20ea0145205aPost:a3a55cfc-c9ec-4b96-9f36-d5313479f267">Re: Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor</a>:
  [QUOTE]Have a heart to heart with her about it. Reassure her that you want her as your MOH. If she feels hurt, just explain that your friend is also important to you and you understand if she is hurt, but that was not your intetion. If she brings up bridal showers or party issues, just let her know that if they/she would like to plan something, any one is free to do so and they can collaborate or not. Their decision.  Now, if you have two, you will have to choose one to stand beside you and hold your bouquet. I would do this randomly with names out of a hat or something, and then have the other MOH sign your marriage license to divvy up the MOH duties and so no one feels left out. 
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• Ash61612 member

  

  December 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_maid-of-honor-matron-of-honor-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:1166bd80-0407-4776-a97c-20ea0145205aPost:a0adacf1-298b-4440-ad36-8a3fe7ed1589">Re: Maid of Honor and Matron of Honor</a>:
  [QUOTE]The only thing you can do is reassure her that you asked her to be your Matron of Honor for a reason.  If she still wants to step down to BM there's nothing you can really do about it.
  Posted by jagore08[/QUOTE]
  agree

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• gamitchell member

  

  December 2011

  Thanks everyone for your responses.  I did have a heart to heart with her tonight and she's still unsure so I'm leaving the decision up to her.  I explained everything like you all said and I guess I'll have to find out.  I do like the idea of divving up everything if I do end up with both of them like I would like.  Your help was much appreciated.

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• welterk

  

  January 2012

  The original post helped me to see that others are using maid and matron of honor. I do think it reminded me to talk to both of the people I have standing up for me, make sure that roles are made clear. Thanks for making me think.

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