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New and stressed?

jlu2025jlu2025
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I have been engaged for two weeks, and been stressed for about 1 1/2.  Everyone immediately asked about colors, registries and dates; I mentioned June of next year and have since been frantically visiting sites in order to beat the rush (surprising, have already found several sites that are close to booked). Thought maybe those of you are also newly engaged could help me out; did anyone else get a little stressed right away?
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    AmandalovesAlAmandalovesAl member
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    When my FI proposed at the Inn we were staying at, by the time we got downstairs and told the sweet innkeeper, I was already being bombarded with questions and they haven't stopped since (been engaged for 3 weeks now!) I was stressed to, but I started just making my lists, and having fun and laughing when people asked me dumb questions like 'what is the date' and stuff!

    Good luck and Congrats!!

    Don't forget to ENJOY your engagment and not be rushed through it with questions and stress. 
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    LaurenAnthonyKaneLaurenAnthonyKane
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    I'm so glad I'm not the only one! I got engaged a month ago, and I was in such a state of shock I wasn't even THINKING about planning-for the first few days I was just on cloud 9. Now that we have started planning I'm getting SUPER discouraged!!

    Planning a wedding in So Cali is INSANE-the amount of money these venues expect is unheard of! We can't find anything we like in our budget, and we can only cut the guestlist down so much-I dunno WHAT i'm going to do. I just can't wait to get the venue figured out so I can have some time to relax. Things books up so quick around here-one of the venues we are interested only have ONE saturday left, and 2 Fridays left for March 2011!!

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    luckyme502luckyme502 member
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    You need to take a deep breath and relax.  You have plenty of time to get everything done.  Our wedding is 7 months from when we got engaged.  And right now,  have nothing to do but wait.  Everything will be great.  Congrats on your engagement. 
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    misscarolbmisscarolb
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    We got engaged 2 weeks ago at our friends wedding, my FI was the best man. So we were bombarded with questions the second it happened. Then as soon as I set foot back home the stress hit me! I was immediately on here looking at venues and dresses, and trying to put together a guest list. Now, although I really want to keep searching for things, I'm trying hard not to. We have so much time to plan, right now I just want to be engaged.

    The questions will always come, try to keep your answer short and sweet. Keep in mind that people are just excited for you, it's a GOOD thing that they're interested!

    Remember the time when everyone asked when you were getting engaged? I'll take wedding planning questions over "and when are you getting married?" anyday!!!


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    LEESHY09LEESHY09 member
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    My advice is just to relax! Everything will fall into place. You might want to consider going to a bridal show in your area. I went to one about a month after I got engaged and it was awesome! I got my dress half off at the show, we won prizes for the tuxes, I booked our DJ,  and talked to a lot of different vendors. It was great to go to in the beginning of planning because there are so many people you can talk to and see if they offer services you need and there are also great deals and specials at these shows. 

    I agree you should also make a priorities list. Ours was first the site and catering, dress, save the dates, and then it continued from there. We are about 6 weeks out now and I still have my priorities list and I would be lost without it! With so many things to accomplish it is best to write it down and put a date to have it completed by to keep you on track.

    Just tell people that ask that you are just enjoying the fact that you are engaged right now and are starting to work on the details! Don't stress and have fun planning because this only happens once and it is such a fun time. Good luck!
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    cdmccdmc
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    I completely understand! Here are some things I did to ease the stress:

    When I first got engaged I was bombarded by questions so I just started replying "it's a surprise" and the laugh!

    I agree with what other people have written – set your priorities! I picked the MOST important thing to me and did that first. Then I tackled the next important thing and have just been moving along like that ever since. 

    Whenever I get stressed or panicked that something might not get done I can stop and think: Got the guy, got the venue, got the food/drink, got the church, got the close friends/family therefore GOT A PARTY! Everything else to me is details. Yes, I love details but not enough to let them run my life. If I get to making pretty little escort cards – great! If I don’t it won’t stop me from getting married to my favourite man! If my bridesmaids end up wearing random dresses – yuck. But it won’t stop me from smiling as I walk down the aisle.  

    I stopped looking at premade checklists.  The premade schedule didn’t match my timeline and it just stressed me out that I couldn’t check the box that said ‘announce your engagement in a newspaper’. That box sat there empty – mocking me a bit. We plan on putting a newspaper announcement in, just not until a few months before the wedding.  I ended up getting my own calendar and worked backwards  from the wedding date with all the things we planned on doing. I used the checklists as guidelines.  That way on a busy month (travel, friend’s weddings etc) I didn’t book much to do. 

    Hope that helps! Enjoy this time!

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    ashrey06ashrey06
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    i had gotten totally stressed right away too...but i was very fortunate and so far the planning has been fairly easy. within the first week i was engaged i had the cake picked out and the baker, the photographer booked, my wedding dress bought, my venue and my officiant booked, the date and the colors picked. it all went so smooth i was a little shocked. i have found the checklist on this site has really helped me out and kept me organized. this site is AMAZING so use all the tools and advice to your benefit!!!
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    gntprincessgntprincess member
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    Good to know i am not the onlly one stressed out
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    Cmrpsu03Cmrpsu03
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    I am right there with you! Got engaged on April 10th (almost 3 weeks ago) and it's been go go go ever since. We wanted June 2011 and we knew we had to move our behinds to get a June date- thankfully we did :) Now that the venue and date are set, we are working on the church part and I am looking at dresses but I am trying not to rush it.
    It's a happy, special time for all of us ladies (and our hubbies to be) and people should just be happy and say "congrats!" (congrats btw!) but hey people naturally are curious ( or nosey lol). I think if you just say we are in the process and smile and be your happy sweet self, it's contagious and people will just be happy for you and let their questions go once they see that radiant glow!
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    cmucce01cmucce01
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    I was engaged for two weeks before all my bridesmaids-to-be made me break down in tears -- and I'm currently living on a different continent!  It's been really hard for us because my fiancé and I are living in two different countries right now, plus we are originally from two different countries (we're international!), and our job situations are rapidly changing so when I come "home" I'm not even sure where that will be... Basically when people start asking questions about the wedding all I can think is, "Be happy we have picked a year and a continent for our "date and location"!!!"  It seems to be worst early in the engagement; you get more confidence and the questions slow down a bit once the excitement wears away.  We have been engaged since January and it's now feeling a bit like crunch time (most venues book a year in advance, and we'd like a May wedding!) but with our job situation it's really difficult to gauge where we might be living next year, and that will play a large part in where we hold the wedding.  This wedding-planning experience is a GREAT lesson in patience, which will no doubt pay off in the actual marriage as well!!!  Good luck to you and enjoy your engagement!!
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    LaurenPaige19LaurenPaige19 member
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    Ugh, I know EXACTLY how all ya'll feel, and it's good to know I'm not alone! I've been engaged since December, and right off the bat I was flooded with the same questions. I really put my foot down and told them I needed to finish my last semester of school and start my career and get a place with him before I even thought about anything. But now it's about 5 months later, the date is August 2011 and apparently I've worn out my welcome with a week till graduation, my mom took the whole following week off to find a venue *sigh*. Just stay focused on what the wedding is really about; yeah its great and all, but it is just one day and marriage is your entire life. Good Luck!
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