I hope you can give some advice about a small problem I'm having. It's really a little thing, but I'd be interested in some other perspectives.
The night before our wedding, I wanted to get together with my bridesmaids, my mother and my fiance's mother at a B&B to have a glass of wine, visit their in-house spa and generally do girly things. The hairdresser will be able to visit us there in the morning, though most of the getting-ready will be happening at the ceremony venue (a museum which provides a dressing room for occasions like this). The problem is my mom tells my that my dad will be offended by being left out.
My dad gets on well with my FI, but isn't really into the same activities, and I don't know what my FI had in mind for the night before, though I think that video games may play a role, which my dad is super not interested in. But then again I can't imagine him wanting to spend the evening with a bunch of girls getting manicures. I'll be spending a lot of time with him in the weeks preceding the wedding, as well, and in the past I've often had a hard time spending long periods of time with him (I love the guy, but sometimes he just drives me nuts), so I don't want to end up feeling irritable towards him.
Should I ask him to spend the evening with us? Send him golfing with his brother-in-law? Get my FI to include him in an activity? I don't want to hurt my dad's feelings, but I do want to spend the evening in the company of the important women in my life. If it makes any difference, I'm not having a shower or a bachelorette party, so this is something that's important to me.