Our officiant was (yes, i said WAS) my best friends parents. I grew up around them and thought it would be meaningful to have them marry us. With FI being stationed away from us, I went to premarital counseling on my own.
FI is Catholic, however he didn't want a catholic mass. Officiants were Christian. They told us that we both needed to be saved before they married us. I mentioned it to FI to get his thoughts.
Well, thrid meeting in, the officiant and I skyped with FI. They said "OK, I am going to save you now." FI says "Can you please explain to me further what that means exactly?" Officiant says, "Being saved means that any sins you have in your past will be forgotten once you are saved. Anytime you sin in the future, you just need to be saved again and you will once again be allowed in Heaven." SAY WHAAAATT?! FI said "I was baptized, that was when I was saved." Officiant says, "That is NOT being saved. Baptism means nothing. If you don't do this, you are going to hell." Ok, so now FI is just shaking with anger.
So then, they start talking about him being in the military and about how he recently got back form Iraq. He mentioned some PTSD stuff about things he went through while here. The officiants asked him to elaborate on what exaclty he meant. So he did.
I KID YOU NOT. Officiant, without second thought and meaningful as all hellll says, "Like I said, you are going to hell." Soooo, lets just say they are no longer our officiants and we have found someone else.
If that wasn't enough, I got their RSVP in the mail today. They are still coming - That isn't even the best part. They added a date on......for their 12 year old daughter! Seriously?! This doesn't happen often, but I don't even have words.
253 Invited
123 Accepted
53 Declined
99 Leavin' Me hangin
RSVP Date: August 5, 2012