Is it really that bad to have a vow renewal ceremony after you have already been married by a JOP?
When H and I married we got married because that is what we wanted to do. It had absolutely nothing to do with him joining the military or benefits. We had actually been talking about getting married for a few years and that was long before he decided to join the military. So we finally did it. All we could afford was a JOP wedding and that was fine with me because I was marrying the love of my life. I'm not going to sit here and act like I didn't want a big wedding with all the trimmings but it simply was not something we could afford and I did not want to begin our life together in unnecessary debt. All was good until I started helping my friend plan her wedding. DH saw how much I enjoyed it and knew that I had always wanted a wedding. By this time we had saved a ton of money (and MIL gave us a wedding gift of a few thousand dollars) and my H decided to give me the ceremony that I always wanted. So now we are having a vow renewal ceremony in December with our closest family and friends. Our anniversary is and always will be 10/17 but this is our party to celebrate the love we share with our friends & famly. Also, I have lied to no one. Everyone knows we are already married and that this is a vow renewal ceremony.
So...is what I am doing really that bad?