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Engagement party help! Urgent!

Hello ladies! I am recently engaged (2 weeks and I'm already stressed! haha) and I have my birthday in August. So I thought what better way to celebrate with friends than to do a joint birthday and engagement party! Only problem is, I don't even know where to start! I do not want anything too formal- just a nice bar/restaurant in the metro detroit area. I am open to suggestions in West Bloomfield, Novi, Ferndale, Royal Oak, Bham, and even Rochester..I just don't want to go too far from that area because it would be too much of a drive for most people. The two places I have come up with so far is D'Amato's in Royal Oak & SlowsBBQ in Detroit. I love the idea of renting out the private room in Slows, but it is SUCH a drive for most people.

I don't want to spend too much- if I can find a place where I can just get drinks for everyone (maybe a couple bottles) and possibly bring in a cake, I would be SO happy. I just want a place where all my friends can get dressed up, have a good time, dance and celebrate with us!

I need to figure this out by the end of the week- my law school finals are coming up and I have a few weeks to give everyone the heads up to come! Please help me!

Re: Engagement party help! Urgent!

  • vk2204vk2204 member
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    I don't have any advice on a location, and I don't want to be Debbie Downer, but you really shouldn't be throwing yourself an engagement party. If someone offers to throw you one, then YAY! But don't host one for yourself.
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  • I think it's totally fine if you want to throw yourself an engagement party, as it sounds like it is nothing formal but a chance for you to shout out "I'm Engaged" and celebrate with friends.

    Andiamo in Novi has a great Martini Lounge they rent out, and if it's not a busy weekend/night they might be able to give it to you for cheap. They are flexible on food and beverage. Contact Rachael Love at rlove@andiamoitalia.com or 248-348-3838

  • Ours was at Rochester Mills Brewery in downtown Rochester.  It was perfect, they reserved a huge section of tables for us, and there was also the option of renting a private room.
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  • I agree with vk that it is not proper etiquette to throw yourself an engagement party.  If you go on the E board and asked this question you would get very strong comments on how this just isn't proper. 

    With that being said I think it is fine to have a birthday party for yourself and you can certainly talk all about your engagement.  
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  • I am not trying to be mean at all but I agree that it is not proper etiquitte to throw yourself an engagement party. Go search this topic on the E board, girls have been ripped apart over this before. We are strangers on the internet telling you this, so imagine what your friends would think. Also, congrats on your engagement! I would start with nailing down a ceremony location and a reception venue, those are the two most important things. I followed those by looking for a photographer, I dont know how long you plan on being engaged for, but I had photographers I contacted a year and 6 months before my wedding that were already booked- so dont put that off for too long.
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  • arzyaarzya member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_engagement-party-help-urgent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:a1e71a0d-68b2-4e18-9977-3be04c19e152Post:cb740fc8-c60d-4699-ba0d-23a9c17d1046">Re: Engagement party help! Urgent!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it's totally fine if you want to throw yourself an engagement party, as it sounds like it is nothing formal but a chance for you to shout out "I'm Engaged" and celebrate with friends. Andiamo in Novi has a great Martini Lounge they rent out, and if it's not a busy weekend/night they might be able to give it to you for cheap. They are flexible on food and beverage. Contact Rachael Love at rlove@andiamoitalia.com or 248-348-3838
    Posted by aemelvin[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yes! It's mostly for my birthday but I don't have time to meet with each person individually that are asking to meet for drinks because of being busy with law school, so I thought what better way than pay for their drinks and have them come out for a fun night! My friends love this idea! Thank you loads! </div>
  • arzyaarzya member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_engagement-party-help-urgent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:a1e71a0d-68b2-4e18-9977-3be04c19e152Post:c9d88105-d660-4e9b-acf2-725bd5f4e25e">Re: Engagement party help! Urgent!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ours was at Rochester Mills Brewery in downtown Rochester.  It was perfect, they reserved a huge section of tables for us, and there was also the option of renting a private room.
    Posted by kd1986[/QUOTE]

    <div>Thank you! I will check this place out! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></div>
  • arzyaarzya member
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    [QUOTE]I don't have any advice on a location, and I don't want to be Debbie Downer, but you really shouldn't be throwing yourself an engagement party. If someone offers to throw you one, then YAY! But don't host one for yourself.
    Posted by vk2204[/QUOTE]</span></div><div>
    </div><div>[QUOTE]I am not trying to be mean at all but I agree that it is not proper etiquitte to throw yourself an engagement party. Go search this topic on the E board, girls have been ripped apart over this before. We are strangers on the internet telling you this, so imagine what your friends would think. Also, congrats on your engagement! I would start with nailing down a ceremony location and a reception venue, those are the two most important things. I followed those by looking for a photographer, I dont know how long you plan on being engaged for, but I had photographers I contacted a year and 6 months before my wedding that were already booked- so dont put that off for too long.
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    [QUOTE]I agree with vk that it is not proper etiquette to throw yourself an engagement party.  If you go on the E board and asked this question you would get very strong comments on how this just isn't proper.  With that being said I think it is fine to have a birthday party for yourself and you can certainly talk all about your engagement.  
    Posted by kikirst33[/QUOTE]

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    </div>[QUOTE]It's poor ettiquite to throw yourself and e party. Just keep it as a birthday party.
    Posted by mtishawt[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>While I thank you ladies for pointing out the proper traditional etiquette for engagement parties, I also didn't give much information other than I want it to be an informal celebration with friends for my birthday and our engagement. All I had really asked for was locations where I can do that. Without knowing any details other than a general statement of what is being planned, sometimes proper etiquette does not apply in all situations. That being said, thanks for all your suggestions <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /></div>
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