Best Advice You Never Got...

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• bexx246

  

  June 2010

  That something will go wrong on your wedding day.  Whatever it is, it will probably be minor.  There is no need to stress over it.  At the end of the day, you will be married to the love of your life and that's all that matter.  Relax and enjoy this very special day.

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• trishinbanff member

  

  June 2010

  No one cares more about the wedding than you.

  

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• ChelseaBFH

  

  June 2010

  My wedding isn't for about 2 more weeks, but...
  
  Do projects when you're in the mood to do them, regardless of whether or not you feel "ready" or feel like its the right time.  If you come home from work one day eager to address your invitations - just go with it.  Time goes by so fast that you'll be glad you got it over with, and the joy of checking something off your "to do" list will far outweigh the regret of not doing it perfectly.

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• Buckeye_43 member

  

  June 2010

  Make sure you have transportation planned out for the ENTIRE day.  I live in a different state than my family/where the wedding was, so I didn't have a car.  I rode to the venue to decorate with my brother and then two of my BMs and I got a ride back to my parents' house with my aunt.  It was time to leave for our hair appointments and we had no way to get there.  My dad was about to run a truck full of stuff over to the venue and we had to ride in the bed of the truck to one of my BM's parents house to borrow a car.  It's a funny memory, but we were a little stressed for a while.

  

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• mcclurekelley member

  

  June 2010

  Ask the groom what he wants to be a part of.
  
  Too often, we assume that the groom "doesn't care" when it comes to wedding details.  Brides can get stressed and frustrated because the groom isn't helping with wedding planning.
  
  Ask him what he wants to help plan and what he doesn't.
  
  I had a friend who had a 3 day argument with her now husband over the font on their wedding invitations.  She assumed he didn't care about that sort of thing, and he did. 
  
  So, ask him!  Don't assume!

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• Amy_Justin

  

  June 2010

  Feel how you're feeling, not how you're "supposed" to be feeling or how people expect you to feel. I wasn't nervous the week before the wedding. Everyone kept asking me if I was really nervous  and I couldn't help but feel like a zombie for not being nervous. The night before the wedding I was telling my sister (junior bridesmaid) how I felt like I should be more nervous because everyone was telling me to be nervous, but she reassured me it was okay to feel how I feel and not how everyone else tells me to feel.
  
  So I guess that advice was advice I did get, but I wish someone would have told me that sooner!

  

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• kassie411

  

  June 2010

  The thing that really threw me off is how much my bridesmaids didn't get along.  The wedding made all of them super emotional and catty towards each other.
  
  Also I wish someone would have told me dancing lessons are a waste of money, Hubby was so nervous he forgot all the moves.
  
  BUT it still turned out to be a beautiful dance.
  
  AND like everyone else said, things WILL go wrong.  My seating chart got all messed up as people started moving to where they wanted to be instead of where they were assigned.  I tripped walking up the stage to get married and my dress had the bra sewn in and part of the stitching went through the front and completely looked HORRIBLE.  I grabbes a sissors and started cutting.. yes I cut a tiny part of the front of my dress.. but no one noticed except me. AND no one cared, except me.
  
  PLUS my dad didn't put his teeth in for half the photos.  LOL 

  
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• jtothelee216 member

  

  June 2010

  People will seat themselves where they want regardless of your seating chart.  I spent HOURS on a seating chart only to look out amongst my guests to see the oddest mixing of guests at tables.  Really Frustrating!!

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• celestialnyte

  

  July 2010

  I still have a *ton* of time until I get married, but I think the best advice that nobody is giving me is that the FI and I don't have to agree on everything, and we won't. His idea of the 'perfect' wedding and my idea of the 'perfect' wedding aren't the same. Our backgrounds our different, experiences are different, etc. He'd be happy with a town hall reception and a pot luck dinner - I would not be. Not saying theres anything wrong with his idea, but it's not what I'd want. Being that we're not always going to be agreeable, it's essential that not only do you realize that a) it's okay (and normal) that you don't agree on everything - it'll get you prepared for all those things you don't agree on when you're married AND b) those things that are MOST important to you is the only things really worth fighting for. If you're day will be 100% absolutely ruined if you don't have (insert whatever it is here) at your wedding, fight about that. Don't fight about the fact that he wants to wear black Jordan sneakers instead of black dress shoes because nobody's going to notice anyways (But if he told me that Pachabel's Canon wasn't allowed ... we'd have to fight). The sooner the *most important* are figured out, the less arguments will take place.
  
  And also, when he says "Whatever you want" and "I don't care" most of the time it's not to be standoffish, or he doesn't really care --- what he really means to say is "Hunny the day is going to be perfect just becasue you're there. And the rest dosen't matter that much to me -- if you and I are there the rest is just incidentals."
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  August 2010

  "No matter what you do, somebody will think it's tacky. Get over it and do what you want to do."

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