i have a small problem with the in-law side. i have a very small family, but my in-law side of the family is huge. the wedding planner (whom is a really good friend of that side of the family) and myself are trying to keep the amount of people to 200-250. when we did the rough draft of a seating arrangement we ended up with an extra 100 people on the in-law side. so the wedding planner and myself & fiance set down and scaled back. my fiance and i are paying for this wedding ourselves. we are not looking for help from any of our parents.
we told my in-laws that we had to scale back some people because it was just to much and money is tight as it is. just recently when i was out with my fiance & mother in-law we bumped into someone that we are inviting to our wedding and my mother in-law suggested to the invitee for them to bring their whole familyn not just the peoplle that are written down on the invitation. when i heard this i thought i was going to scream. but i stayed calm and just looked over at my fiance with a look like what is she doing.
i found out this morning that my mother in-law apparently saw me give this look to my fiance and was not pleased for the way i reacted about her asking this invitee to bring other people with him. i don't get it anymore. my fiance agrees that we have to keep the guest list limited since it's tight with money, yet he's allowing his mother to invite whomever she wants and won't back me up. i'm not sure what to do anymore. i'm always turning out to be the bad one. please share some advice. thanks!