Anyone leaving something traditional out of their wedding?

photochick2013 · July 2012

We are not doing the bouquet toss and garter toss. If I can get away with it I don't want to do the share the cake thing. I'm very shy and I'm really going for an informal wedding. If it was up to me we would have had a destination with family and close friends. Don't get me wrong I'm excited about our wedding but would have chosen something smaller My fiancé is outgoing and I wanted him to be happy on his day too. We are only planning for 80 people so it hasn't gotten too large.

lehc723 · July 2012

We're not doing a bouquet toss or garter toss either, for same reasons of shyness. We're also not planning a formal getaway or exit with sparklers or flower petals or anything like that.

tamrahelmer · July 2012

I think that this is what will make your wedding unique. It should reveal who YOU guys are as a couple. I haven't figured out my "somethings", and I'm thinking I am just going to skip it honestly.

snuff9861 · July 2012

I'm not wearing a veil and we don't have toasting flutes since I don't drink.

semay23 · July 2012

We aren't doing a "grand exit" either. We are also having cupcakes instead of cake.

And YAY! Another Oct 2012 KY bride

lehc723 · July 2012

Oh, also not doing a veil and no special toasting flutes (unless someone buys us some, but we haven't registered for them).

CarolineandDean · July 2012

My ceremony is going to be very short and sweet. No readings, no special songs inbetween, no unity candle, no sand.

We're also not doing any sort of grand exit. We pretty much plan on partying until we're too tired to dance anymore

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music11 · July 2012

We are not doing the garter or bouquet toss, but otherwise, we have most of the traditional elements in our wedding.

chilover27 · July 2012

We aren't doing a garter or bouquet toss either. We are not shy people but most weddings I have been to it seems it wastes so much time. I rather be dancing and mingling.

BrittneyRN · July 2012

I won't be wearing a veil. I really dislike them. We're having very few flowers- just bouquets and corsages/bouts.

huskerfan246 · July 2012

We are not doing a garter toss or dollar dance (not a fan of them), our wedding party only consists of a best man and maid of honor, no groomsmen or bridesmaids, its going to be an outdoor ceremony, and we are not using ushers or assigned seating.

julie279 · July 2012

We are not doing a garter toss, but I am tossing a bouquet. My florist said he can make a smaller tossing bouquet so I will be using that rather than tossing the bouquet I walk down the aisle with. We also are not doing a grand exit. We also aren't doing a first dance, a father/daughter dance, or a mother/son dance. I have been to some weddings where they do what I think is called an Anniversary Dance. They play Through the Years (or at least that's what it is when I've seen it done), and all married couples go out onto the dance floor. The DJ then says anyone married less than a day, please leave the dance floor, then less than a yr, 2 yr, etc. until there is one couple left. Then the bride and groom go out onto the dance floor and dance the rest of the song with the couple married the longest. We may do this in place of our first dance.

geieran · July 2012

We aren't doing a bouguet or garter toss, but it's not because of shyness. I'm still a little on the shy side. However, the main reason is that my F really dislikes the garter toss. He feels that it would be tossing my underwear to a bunch of guys and I think he has a pretty good point. I have never really cared for the tradition myself either. We aren't doing the bouquet toss mostly because we're omitting the garter toss and because all the weddings I have ever been to the single women had to be forced into it (myself included). I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable.

We also aren't having a reception full of dancing, but around here most people don't have big dancing parties. I am not taking some of the usual pictures like the dress hanging on the hanger and the accessories either. All of those things will be captured on me so I don't really see the point. To me, a dress doesn't mean very much without the person in it.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

no bouquet or garter toss here either!

jenny&will2014 · July 2012

here goes:
my son is walking me down the aisle, i am not wearing a veil, we are not having music at all so of course no dollar dance and probably no garter or bouquet toss, we are not doing a grand exit and im sure there is much more but i cant remember much right now

minionlover · July 2012

I have lots....no garter/bouquet toss, cheesecake instead of cake, destination wedding, having a man of honor, no favors, possibly not a veil, staying with FI the night before, no cocktail hours, no bar and I am going to walk myself down the aisle. That's all I can think of now.

xxbrokendreamsxx · July 2012

I'm not wearing a veil, though it pains my mother when I say that. lol. I love my parents, but veils just aren't my thing. There's a few other things we're debating on.

kd1986 · July 2012

No garter toss, and no wedding party dance!

ladydaisy · July 2012

No bouquet or garter toss for us either. My son is walking me down the isle, and FI's son is the BM. (both son's are adults)

mbuckley85 · July 2012

No bouquet/garter toss. We are doing an anniversary dance and giving away an arrangement made to match my bouquet.

KittennDave · July 2012

We're not doing garter toss, bouquet toss or grand exit either. We'll be doing the anniversary dance I believe.

If you're shy about sharing cake do you think you guys could do something like special candy or cookies that would be less messy? If you wanted it might be another option, although not having it at all I don't think is strange, as long as it fits who the two of you are together! :-)

photochick2013 · July 2012

Thumbs up to KY Brides

I'm glad I'm not alone. I'm also not having anyone walk me down the aisle, no viel, no monther/father dance, staying with FI night of. We debated first dance as a couple but the DJ is a good friend and said that is like an opener to encourage others to dance. We're going to dance a few mins alone then invite other couples to join. We are very casual people and we just want a simple ceramony and family/friends, food and dancing!

annieravensfan528 · July 2012

Quite a few...

1.No bouquet or garter toss.

2.No flower girl or ring bearer.

3.I'm wearing a bird cage veil (this wasn't isn't so much non-traditional, but no one in our families or circle of friends has worn one, only "traditional" veils).

4.We're not doing cake but rather a huge dessert bar.

5.We're getting married outside a barn and then moving the reception inside.

6.Friday wedding

7.Absolutely no dollar dance. They're fairly common where I live (Cincinnati suburbs) but I think they're beyond tacky.

mmmendi · July 2012

I really feel much better reading this thread! I feel kind of validated so thank you all! I didn't want a veil, didn't like the garter toss or bouquet toss...only one attendant each, and my MOH won't carry flowers...no big exit...no dancing...minimal music...and my boys are giving me away. I don't wan to do the feeding cake thing, because he is really teasing me about getting it all ove me and I am not sure if he is serious or not!

futuremrsjdmartin · July 2012

-We're not doing the garter or bouquet toss

-NO flowers at all, bouquets and boutineers are made out of jersey cloth.

-Cake balls instead of cake.

-Friday wedding.

-Park ceremony and reception.

-No veil.

-Bow ties instead of regular ties, each groomsmen with a different pattern.

-No suits or tuxs.

-Bridesmaids will not match other than all wearing some shade of green.

-No dancing other than first dance.

-Rock climbing at end of reception.

-We're doing grand exit with the releasing of balloons.

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