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Opinions Please - Family Officiating the Ceremony

happe2getherhappe2gether member
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So yesterday afternoon on the way to a BBQ, my mom got on the subject of the wedding.  Her question was simple - but loaded.  Her brother, my uncle and my father's best friend until he passed away, is now ordained in Goergia.  Her question, have I considered letting him marry us.  Well the thought has crossed my mind, and I'm sure my FI wouldn't mind one bit.  I do like the idea.  But my uncle is so LONG WINDED!! I mean when a bunch of women rush a man off the phone you know you talk a long time!! LOL!! But like I said I do like the idea.  I think my only worry is that he would get too emotional during the ceremony.  

Is anyone letting a family member or close friend marry them?  What do you all think?? 
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Re: Opinions Please - Family Officiating the Ceremony

  • cincy2011cincy2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    FI's friend from high school is a minister, so he is marrying us.  I think it's a great idea to have a friend or family member marry you.  If FI didn't have his friend do it, I was going to ask my best friend's father to marry us.  I would say just talk to your uncle in advance and tell him how long you would like for his portion of the ceremony to last.  I'm sure he'll understand.
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  • smooth84smooth84
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    edited December 2011
    FI's uncle is marrying us and they were really close when FI was growing up. He did our son's dedication and did a great job. I agree, you should talk to him, I'm sure he'll understand...
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  • amberlynnedamberlynned member
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    edited December 2011
    OMG, my brother asked to marry FI and me and saying yes was the WORST idea we've ever had. 

    It turns out, my brother thought this was his chance to shine and had more "I's" in his script then "Amber & Chirag's". In short, it was a nightmare. Anytime we asked him to read a script word-for word (i.e.: our vows) then he had a melt down.

    We have eventually gotten to the point in which we are all ok with FI & me using another officiant.

    So my point of all of this is this: Because they're family, their focus may not be that of a professional. Make sure that if you use your uncle that he knows EXACTLY what you want, and if FI and you want to, write him a script. Better safe than sorry!

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  • desi2002desi2002 member
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    edited December 2011
    my dad is officiating, and my grandpa will walk me down he aisle. This is so special b/c this may be the last wedding my grandpa makes it to,  and having my daddy officiating is so very special to me. 
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  • chayb87chayb87
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    edited December 2011
    My grandfather was a pastor who probably would've officiated our wedding, but he passed away in 2002.  My grandmother kind of took over as head of their church and me and FI would like her to officiate our wedding, but we haven't asked her yet, so we'll see.
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  • happe2getherhappe2gether member
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you!
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  • cdmcdonaldcdmcdonald
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    edited December 2011
    My cousin is officiating my wedding and we let him know our expectations...including time! lol I think it would be a special treat to you and FI. Nothing like family! HTH
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