I don't wanna walk in my graduation....

kitkatherine · June 2010

But my parents really want me to. It's kind of difficult because I plan on getting my married name on my degree and not my maiden name. So I would be announced as his name instead of my own. And if I go, he's going (we're graduating together and in the same college so we will be in a row) and I really don't want to be announced with that name until my wedding.
That and I honestly don't wanna wait 3 hours and pay money to get a stupid piece of paper when I have a wedding I'm spending money on. you have to pay 100 dollars for the ceremony here plus cap, gown,and the tassel. It's not worth it with a whatever thousand dollar wedding that my mom is freaking out about already. I just don't know how to convince her.
And my college won't call a different name than I want on my diploma... we're getting married the week after the ceremony.
I guess this is mostly a vent... I don't know what I'm going to do. I figure just ignore it. My fiancee's parents don't care if he walks. Bah... I get why my mom wants me to, I'm just so *done* with school

nannewmur · June 2010

I am going to answer this from a parent's view. My daughter is graduating with her BS in May and starting a two years Master's the following Aug. She wanted to wait and walk at her MS.

My daughter did not qualify for any financial aid or academic scholarships and I paid every single penny without taking out loans. She has a 3.65 GPA in an occupational science program. She will be the first grandchild on both sides to graduate. It is a HUGE deal to me and marks a major milestone in her life.

If your parents want you to do this, please do it for them. It will mean so much to them and hopefully, you will be glad you did after it is over with!!

nannewmur · June 2010

PS And one other thing-the most it will probably cost is $250. I understand you are getting married the next weekend. Cut back on something to save $25 a month so you can do this. You will probably get cash graduation gifts to make up for this. I hope this will all work out.

LauraT25 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]PS And one other thing-the most it will probably cost is $250. I understand you are getting married the next weekend. Cut back on something to save $25 a month so you can do this. You will probably get cash graduation gifts to make up for this. I hope this will all work out.
Posted by nannewmur[/QUOTE]

I agree with this, and what others have said about how it's really something you should do for your family.

kitkatherine · June 2010

Yes it is fine, because I will receive the diploma about 4 weeks after graduation if not more. I've discussed it with my advisor. That and we may end up getting everything done before hand instead of after the wedding as we have so many guests coming in and staying with us getting all the legal stuff done after is not gunna be fun.

It's just rough because we won't be receiving graduation gifts - we are not having a graduation party, we're having a wedding. And unfortunately, my fiancee's job is gone and we're taking a hugeee hit this summer.

I always figured I'd have to. I still don't want to though

It's just weird to me. My dad doesn't want to come - he doesn't wanna sit for 3 hours. My brother will not, I doubt my sister will. Just my mom. It seems weird to me knowing her especially.

Bah, it's just going to be a bit weird. If my mom wants me to, I will, but she could end up changing her mind at that point in time. This one's all up to her, and she's been off lately. It's just weird.

Like I said, this is more of a rant. I just need to get it out to someone other than my FI who just says "yeah, well I don't have to" because his parents didn't walk in theirs.

miah_23_ncb · June 2010

Imglad your leaning toward doing it. I think it is more for the family becaseu they are so proud and want pics of that day.

vrichardson · June 2010

I just graduated and I walked even though I didn't want to just for my mom. Some people really do believe graduation is about the family rather than the graduate. At the end of the day I wished I had the nerve to skip the whole thing and do me, but then again my mom was pleased. So its all about balance and where your priorities are.

ptrst · June 2010

That was the situation, basically, with my high school graduation (minus the getting married part), and I'll be in the same place in another ten or so months. I'm going to walk, because it'll make my mom happy, even though I hate how long and boring all graduation ceremonies are. I mean, yeah it sucks, but parents are sentimental and I'm pretty sure my mother would hold it against me forever if I didn't do it.

JustPeachy89 · June 2010

Honestly I don't want to walk either. My FI graduated last year and his parents wanted him to as soon as he crossed the stage he dipped out the back for a "family emergency." Thing is, if they paid for, it you gotta do it if they want you to. Other wise its like thanks for all your money but I'm going to go marry him now. I'll do the same "family emergency" I think just so I don't have to sit 3 hours.

You may be able to have them call you are Ms. Madien name still but have your diploma say MRS. hislastname

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