My fiance and I are both from a small midwestern town. We both have large families and a large circle of friends. This wiill be my second marriage, but he has never been married. All through our relationship, he has assured me that he does not care what kind of wedding we have, etc. But last weekend, when I was trying to talk to him about what type of *small* gathering we should do... he completely changed his mind on me. Now, he wants to have it in our hometown (where I orginally got married, and many of the guests would be repeats...) and have a big party. I wanted to do a smaller, more intimate ceremony and reception, with about 75 people in the town where we now live together.
I feel that it is inappropriate to ask my extended family, who all live at least 5 hours away by car, to come back for my second wedding. He told me not to invite them. He doesn't understand that having a bigger wedding means inviting the people that should be invited.
Ladies... I need some help trying to iron this out. He thinks that the only reason I do not want to have our wedding in our hometown is b.c I am worried what other people will think. To some extent, that is true - I don't worry what other people think about me getting remarried. I do worry about the proper etiquette associated with a second marriage.
I need some advice. I am so sick about this dilemma that I don't even want to have a wedding anymore
