rsvp wording

Re: rsvp wording

• bridesally2012

  

  March 2012

  Thanks for the suggestion but for personal and family reasons it's really imoprtant for us to send out a single invitation for both ceremonies. We could include two RSVP cards (one for each reception) but I think that is probably a waste of money on postage (our guest list is large so just having an extra stamp on an extra RSVP card per guest adds up). I'm not really worried about space on the RSVP card as I can make them slightly larger (sorry if that wasn't clear in my initial post), but wanted to see if most people would figure out how to respond using this card.

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• bridesally2012

  

  March 2012

  Thanks for the advice. The timing is not an issue: the two "weddings" are less than a week apart which is part of the reason we only want one invitation. 

  
  

  If you don't feel comfortable answering this question because of etiquette that's fine. Thanks for making me aware of a potential issue, but for our guests this is really not an etiquette issue. (In Mexico many people have two weddings because approximately 90% of the population has some religious connection and no religious wedding is considered legal -- you are required by law to have a separate civil ceremony. Thus, everyone who wants a religious ceremony must have two weddings.) For us the reason to have two "weddings" (and to try to make them as equally significant as possible) is because many of our guests cannot afford or are physically able to attend a wedding in another country. Again, knowing my guest list, I can't think of anyone who will think us rude for making sure as many of the important people in our lives can attend the wedding as possible, even if that means having two celebrations.

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• ootmother2 member

  

  March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_rsvp-wording-25?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:a8d53fbe-414f-4771-972f-c79ca6a394ddPost:c4b51ded-f6f0-4a32-84e5-dc91cdd56c52">Re: rsvp wording</a>:
  [QUOTE]You are aking us to help you do something that is not accepted etiquette.  You only get one wedding and one wedding reception, and that will be in Mexico. (?) You can still have your wedding celebration in Minnesota, but it will not be a wedding reception, or directly wedding related.  This is why you need to send out two invitations, because they are two separate events. I advise you to invite everybody to the actual wedding and reception.  Then when you get some RSVP regrets, you can invite them, or everybody to the post wedding at-home reception in Minnesota.
  Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]
  
  Religious requirements can make this necessary, particularly in Central and South American countries.

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• DiLynn83 member

  

  March 2012

  I don't understand why you would pay for the RSVP card, then have the option for guests to email you.  I'd nix the email and stick to the mailed RSVPs.

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