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Bridesmaids dresses - letting them pick their own?
My wedding colors are black and white with pink accents. For bridesmaids, I intended on having them wear black dresses. All three of the girls in my wedding party have very different body types. On top of that, one maid is newly engaged herself, and trying to save money for her own wedding, and another one just recently got a job. I don't want them to have to buy a dress that they will only wear once.
My plan was a send them pictures of a few dresses that I like, and then let them pick a black, knee length dress that they like and find flattering. But my sister (who is also my MOH) thinks this will lead to diaster.
Is anyone else planning something like this? Or has anyone tried it? What's your opinion, good way for everyone to get something they like, or diaster waiting to happen?
My plan was a send them pictures of a few dresses that I like, and then let them pick a black, knee length dress that they like and find flattering. But my sister (who is also my MOH) thinks this will lead to diaster.
Is anyone else planning something like this? Or has anyone tried it? What's your opinion, good way for everyone to get something they like, or diaster waiting to happen?
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Re: Bridesmaids dresses - letting them pick their own?
I don't know what "disaster" could possibly come from allowing your best friends to dress themselves in classic LBDs. They'll thank you, and your pictures will look plenty uniform (check out stina's bio for one example of this). Go for it!
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2) Send them 2-3 choices and have them choose. You will have picked out the dresses but they will have picked out their personal preference. I don't think this will lead to diaster. Maybe your sister thought you were talking about having them pick their dress without you sending them choices???
It's fine if you pick a designer you know they can all afford (maybe Alfred Angelo or David's Bridal ... and they could probably even find the DB dresses on eBay or Craigslist to save some cash), and specify a fabric if you want, and let them pick their own styles.
It's also fine to say, "Get a black cocktail dress anyplace you want." If you want to make some limitations - no sparkles, no backless, a non-shiny material, whatever - that is also O.K. Or you can just let them go buck wild.
I sent my two BMs a link to three Ann Taylor dresses - black, knee-length, silk taffetta - and let them each pick the one they wanted, and I bought them green sashes to wear. We got a good deal on them during a Cyber Monday sale. They seemed very happy with that arrangement, and they'll wear their own shoes and jewelry too.
[QUOTE]Maybe your sister thought you were talking about having them pick their dress without you sending them choices???
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That would be fine too. I agree that if one's in a sundress and one's in a ballgown it'll look odd, but I think with length guidelines and a general idea of formality, they can each pick a dress without the bride's input.
(For the record, I asked all my girls to buy matching dresses, so I think it's fine for a bride to ask for a specific dress or dresses, but I also don't think that it's necessary in this case since OP doesn't want to do that)
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Our BP chose their own, in our color scheme and fabric choices. It worked out great, they were able to choose a dress that they were comfortable in and in their price range.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridesmaids dresses - letting them pick their own? : The one girl is really girly, and she thinks her dress will be nothing but ruffles and sparkles. The other one dresses like a hippie, and she thinks she would show up in a shapeless maxi dress.
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Ok, that's what your sister thinks, and clearly that would bug her. But do you care? If so then give some guidelines on length and style, but if not then your sister can deal.
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I think pps gave you some great ideas, and that it won't be a disaster if you let them choose their own.
[QUOTE]My bridesmaids will all be wearing the same dress, but they are picking it out. I had originally thought to let them all pick a LBD, but they, as a group decided that they wanted the same dress, so that's what we will do, although I was a little shocked that they decided that.
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<div>Mine did the same thing. They looked at me like I had two heads when I suggested they all get different dresses in the same color. </div>
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Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
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If they will be wearing black dresses, there is no reason for them not to buy one. It is a staple in a woman's closet - I'd be surprised if they didn't already have one!
Set guidlines (black, knee length, fabric) and let the ladies pick which dress they want.
They can also reuse the dress as well!
[QUOTE]My wedding colors are black and white with pink accents. For bridesmaids, I intended on having them wear black dresses. All three of the girls in my wedding party have very different body types. On top of that, one maid is newly engaged herself, and trying to save money for her own wedding, and another one just recently got a job. I don't want them to have to buy a dress that they will only wear once. My plan was a send them pictures of a few dresses that I like, and then let them pick a black, knee length dress that they like and find flattering. But my sister (who is also my MOH) thinks this will lead to diaster. Is anyone else planning something like this? Or has anyone tried it? What's your opinion, good way for everyone to get something they like, or diaster waiting to happen?
Posted by GACCAK[/QUOTE]
I'm letting my brides maids pick there own. I went shopping with my girls and let them pick and of course they made sure I liked what they picked and suprisingly I loved what they picked :) Hope that helps