I just need to vent...

KimA85 · October 2010

I wrote a really long post, and then deleted it because it was almost as long as The Bible.

Let's just say...my mom is stuck in 1985. She's driving me crazy. I don't want to deal with this for the next 13 months, and I just want to get this damn wedding over with already.

...and I'm really envious of everybody who seems to be having a great time planning theirs, because not one bit of this has been fun for me so far.

CandisH · October 2010

Kim, trust me, you're not alone. No ones planning is always puppies and rainbows.

KimA85 · October 2010

Thanks, Candis.

shoegirl00 · October 2010

CandisH is right... Its not easy but it does get easier. and you'll have ups and downs though it.... but one thing ive learned is that my first 5 months of planning were super stressful where all i wanted to do was cancel the wedding but then these past few months have been so much better once i finalized the details and i disconnected. now im sure its not over yet and that once it gets closer ill want to shoot someone again lol.

hang in there dear.

avee10 · October 2010

Kim dont feel bad that you aren't enjoying the planning phase. I for one, HATED it! I couldnt wait for the day of the wedding to come so that I didnt have to make any more decisions regarding, flowers, linens, cake etc. I'm just not the party planning type of girl I guess.

Dont worry to much just take a deep breath and try to invision your wedding day. try not to think about the big picture too much, just make each decision as it comes, that way you wont feel to overwhelmed.

Good luck!

waterroxy17 · October 2010

You are not alone!! I have a mother who doesn't seem interested and i do everything alone. Between saving money, working, and planning sometimes i want to elope!

KimA85 · October 2010

Thanks guys, I really appreciate your sentiments...I'm relieved I'm not the only one who struggles with it!

CandisH · October 2010

I ask my FI every week if we can just run away and elope! But I know in the end it'll all be worth it! Keep your head up Kim! We're both going to be Mrs. Murphy!

twinkle82576 · October 2010

Like the girls all said, it will be worth it in the end. It's def. a stressful time and has it's ups and downs, but it will get better.

bears4life · October 2010

Kim, hun, let me tell you, I'd be lying if I said planning has been fun for me. I've pretty much hated most of it. Here I am 5 days before my wedding and I can't even finalize anything because people keep changing their minds. No puppies or rainbows here. You're not alone but keep positive and keep going bc they say it's worth it in the end...that I'll tell you after saturday lol

KimA85 · October 2010

Gabi...let us know if it's worth it! lol!

anaroo87 · October 2010

Agreed with everyone

I'm also one to constantly tell FI maybe we should just elope and save the stress and money. There definitely are ups and downs constantly.
However, when you said your mom was stuck in 1985 - I envisioned you in one of those lovely wedding dress like the pic below and wondered if your mom was trying to force you to wear that? lol

EvelynandManny · October 2010

Hey anna lets not bach the head band ...super duper awesome! LOL... anyways yes no its not puppies and rainbows (but i keep telling myself that)...ia gree with shoegirl (sorry i suck with names) that it gets easier once you get the big things out of the way...then its all downhill untill you get closer im sure...but im not looking forward to the last month!

KimA85 · October 2010

Anna,
I could totally rock that dress if necessary, lol! If I let her plan the whole wedding, my bridesmaids would be in peach dresses with babys breath in their hair, there'd be a champagne fountain somewhere in the room, disposable cameras at each table, and a photographer instructing us with each pose, ensuring 2000+ images that resemble prom pics.

anaroo87 · October 2010

lol peach bridesmaid dresses just reminded me of the dress jennifer lopez gets for her FMIL (can't think of her name) in Monster In Law .. hahah

Moonstar713 · October 2010

Kim, trust me it has NOT been easy for anyone! The problem is we want our loved ones to be involved in the process but then everyone has their own opinion about everything making it that much more difficult to decide. If it were up to my mom we'd be doing something in the backyard with plastic table covers. They don't get it, they grew up differently. Then there are some mom that don't even help. Like some girls mentioned I am think once most of the major decisions are made things will get better. I have learned to keep my mouth shut and just share some stuff, even then I wish I wouldn't have shared. Trust us, you are not alone. I know I've written here a couple of times that I should have eloped. Even FMIL seems to agree, but like I said before, I know I'll regret it later

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